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Old 09-14-2013, 09:40 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Please help. I am extremely concerned. I have caught my 7 yr old daughter on more than one occasion putting her barbies (ken and Barbie) naked on top of one another. She also does this with her stuffed animals. I have overheard her saying "oh" "yuck" and "lets see if you have babies". She has actually shut her bedroom door and told me not to come in BEFORE playing like this... I would hear this on the other side and then come in and see the dolls like this. Then I gently approached her - what are the dolls doing? She started crying saying leave me alone I don't want to tell you. I pressed a little and she would not tell me. Finally she said they were "hugging". Please tell me this is normal curiousity for her age. I have no idea but I need to know.
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Old 09-14-2013, 09:57 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Hmmm you need to find out what's going on, that's not normal especally her crying and what she tells you. Don't be afraid to find out, this is very important that you do this carefully. Also be on her side and believe what she tells you don't dismiss her. If you need to go to a child psychologist.
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I should mention that I DONT suspect molestation. I couldn't imagine who would do that to her. My husband and I argue A LOT and she told my parents that mommy and daddy never kiss or hug each other and she doesn't think they love each other. I wonder if this is stemming from that somehow?
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I should mention that I DONT suspect molestation. I couldn't imagine who would do that to her. My husband
Start suspecting it.

Sometimes it's the person you think of last.

Don't let your emotional denial leave your daughter exposed to danger.

When a child molester is exposed most people don't say 'I knew it was him (or her!)". Usually it's a shocker.
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The fact that she's playing like that is not as alarming as that she is saying "yuck and lets see if you have babies" as we'll as crying when you and her and telling you she doesn't want to tell you. To me these are red flags, and should not be taken lightly unless she's been exposed to childbirth lately, even so she's should be able to talk to you everything.
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Trust me, I am alarmed! I feel sick actually. I still pray no one is doing anything to her. I have told my husband and he is not concerned! Which bothers me. Do I call her school counselor?
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Start suspecting it.

Sometimes it's the person you think of last.

Don't let your emotional denial leave your daughter exposed to danger.

When a child molester is exposed most people don't say 'I knew it was him (or her!)". Usually it's a shocker.
I agree child molesters are usually people that are close in the family who you trust and abuse that trust. It's not the usual creepy guy, it can even be a female and a family member. I would start with people she spends time alone with, including dad, grandpa, uncles, teachers ect.
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Trust me, I am alarmed! I feel sick actually. I still pray no one is doing anything to her. I have told my husband and he is not concerned! Which bothers me. Do I call her school counselor?
The school counselor could be a great place to start. I'm sorry but your husband should be concerned, most father are very overprotective about these kinds of situations.
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Well he immediately asked her and she said they were "hugging". So he shrugged his shoulders and said ok. Told me that I am overreacting about it.
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I would rather overreact than under react or not react at all, this is something not to shrugg off until you are 110% sure you know what's going on. If its really nothing at lease you will know the signs and learn to open the communication channels with her.
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A word of caution to is not to make her or guide her to say things. Sometimes we don't notice but we make children tell us what they think we want to her. Don't suggest or insinuate things, which is why it's better to bring in a professional.
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I did that. I was sexually abused.

I'd look into it. Maybe a child therapist can help.
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Most of the time kids who act like this have been exposed to situations like this, it does not necessarily mean that she was molested but she heard this somewhere. Or she was exposed to shows or movie with language and pictures. Or she witnessed something. It does not mean it was at your home but it could be through relatives or caregivers, friends she visits. My only concern is that she does not want to tell you anything. Show her love, strengthen the trust, do not interrogate her, just have fun with her and tell her how much you love her, and that she is not in trouble, and ask her where she heard this or if she ever saw people doing this.
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Did you tell her to let you know if she is subject of inappropriate touching and not watch bad movies , and to report if she is exposed to bad shows on TV. (my daughter used to tell me this when she was little, "they are watching bad show!!")
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I have told my husband and he is not concerned!
Well maybe because he's the one molesting her!
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