[coldnightstar]

We have been together for 2 years now. In that 2 years we have been through a lot and made it through. When he first met my kids he was great with them and their relationship has been slowly getting worse. He just sits in the bedroom and place Xbox until they go to bed. Or he'll sleep till 3, sometimes later. The only time he talks to them is when they say something to him or to tell them what they are doing wrong. I don't want him to be there dad but I want him to care.

It has just been one ting after another, he was barking at me all the time and telling me how to do things but that has gotten better. Am I being to picky?

Do I talk to him about it and give another chance, or is this the straw that broke the camel's back?

[artieb]

Tell him you're not comfortable with how he is around the children. See what he says.

[turnera]

Why would you even want to marry someone who spends no time with you, and criticizes you and your kids?

[RatherSharp]

Does he have children of his own? Probably not. He sounds like me when my finace's son used to come around. A single person with no children enjoy a lot of comforts that don't include kids crying, running around, breaking things, etc. In the begining it's like: I love this person and I love kids so that shouldn't be an issue ( not knowing that you haven't been around kids much and don't know HOW you would handle the situation). And at first it's great but being exposed to it and having it cramp a single, childless person lifestyle, the dread starts to set in. Luckily my fiance has a babymomma whose petty and as soon as she found out him and I moved in together she doesn't want thier son at my house so I'm grateful not to have this issue. Hope I helped.