02-21-2011, 03:24 AM
Join Date: Feb 2010
| | Re: Heartbreak of losing ex's family
Originally Posted by typewittyusernamehere
I think they think I am the bad guy, they are a very close knit family. They insult me, they harass me with rude texts. We do have a child, and yes, does visit them with him.
It is a recent split, but they are being down right nasty. It just baffles me, because I know my relationship with them wasn't fake, or forced. I understand their loyalty to him, but it doesn't ease the hurt.
From that I'd say your priority has to be ensuring the best you can that their venom towards you isn't witnessed by your child, your ex-husband is probably the only one you can approach about this given that you presumably have direct face to face contact with him
which raises a question does he know they're doing this?
Though of course whether or not he'll prove to be prepared to defend his child against inter-family upset might also depend on how acrimonious your split was - my ex was the most placid man on earth til we were splitting then he became quite unpleasant for quite some time and the children witnessed it all (verbal) but now, 10 years down the line, (*he calmed down probably within the first 18m or so)
we meet at his house, have cups of tea, talk about the children's progress etc and he talks to my now partner, has had my son (new partner's) at his house, all aok
I just hope you can either nip this in the bud or that it proves just to be because, as I said, everything's very raw right now (when did this happen?)
Last edited by madimoff; 02-21-2011 at 03:25 AM.
Reason: wasn't 10 years of hell!