Men: Would you leave if...
Okay, I need the male perspective on this issue. Imagine yourself in my husband's shoes...
- you are 50
- your wife is 37
- before you got married 7 years ago, you talked about kids. You told her you could take them or leave them. She told you it was so important to her that is was a deal breaker and so you agreed to have kids. You talked about numbers because you didn't want to end up with 6 kids, and you both agreed that 2 kids was the right number.
- due to your low sperm count, you and your wife have to use in vitro fertilization to conceive.
- after baby #1, you changed your mind and decided you couldn't handle going through that again. You told your wife you were done having kids. Finances are NOT an issue.
-your wife got very angry and resentful and the two of you argued about it for 3 years. Then she told you she was unhappy and feeling resentful and angry and asked you to go to mariage counselling.
- you refused, thinking it wouldn't do any good.
- your wife kept pushing about the baby until you felt like she was giving you an ultimatum, so you told her that you would go ahead with having a second child but you were unhappy about it. You said you would love the child anyway.
- she forges ahead with the fertility procedures, expecting you to cooperate and participate, but you are grumpy and get upset every time you have to do something like sign a form or go to an appointment. The relationship is distant and shaky.
As the time to embryo transfer approaches, what would you do - stick it out and honour your promises or consider leaving your wife and 4 year old (whom you love more than anything in the world)?