Amongst the many troubling issues in my childhood, the most extreme was CHRONIC bed wetting! This started at about 5 and went on for many years - up to the time I began having nocturnal erections which made it harder to urinate without waking up.
My parents tried everything: spanking, ridiculing, threatening, scolding, LECTURING, no or less water, many doctors, getting me up all night to "go", RUBBER SHEETS, shaming by school kids and teachers, contempt from my siblings, washing my own bedding and millions of handkerchiefs (I also had serious sinus issues!). It was the most horrible time of my and my parents lives!!!!
Not that I know
it all but, now I understand it all!
No doctor or other adult would have ever suggest to my parents that their bad relationship and the extreme stress in our family MIGHT have something to do with my "condition" and that I was somewhat like a PSTD victim of the discontent and unhappiness in our family, which was there even before I was born!
Now I see that most of my nocturnal dreams, imaginings and frequent NIGHT MARES were all directly related to the fear, anger and unhappy stress in our family PUT THERE BY OUR PARENTS! I wonder how many of you are struggling with this issue and have no idea WHY your kids are doing this TO YOU?
Teachers sent me home with notes telling my parents that I need a bath 'cos I REEKED OF PEE! We were somewhat poor and didn't have hot running water all the time up in Washington state! There was many types of parental NEGLECT in our family. I always had jittery nerves but no one would have ever associated that with family stress! They didn't believe in PTSD back then! In those days, parents could do no wrong so I had to be the whole and total cause of all this misery and inconvenience to everyone in both my family and in our relative's families where I was NOT WELCOME OVER NIGHT!
A solution to my bed wetting was never found so I just out grew it!
For what it's worth to any of you struggling with this, look to your selves and your behaviors, attitudes, unhappiness, insecurities, fear, anger and ISSUES in your marriage to see if your kid is just reacting to the stress that you - not your kid - have created in your home and your child's life before you rush off to get help to FIX your kid. FIX your marriage first and see how you kid does after that.
I wish you and mostly your kids much success and happiness in getting rid of bed wetting and the stress that may be causing it.