Re: It's our fault
You've heard the old adage, depression is anger turned inwards. Well, when he spouts off its all your fault, that's sort his way of saying he's reached maximum saturation for his inward anger. He literally can't take anymore inward anger and so it comes out, partially in cutting, partially in blame-shifting. Depression is an insidious illness. I hope for everyone's sake that he gets treatment and responds in a timely manner. In my experience and if the depression is in the major depressive state, he might not even remember the outburst.
In youth it was a way I had, to do my best to please, And change, with every passing lad to suit his theories.
But now I know the things I know, and do the things I do; And if you do not like me so, To hell, my love, with you! --Dorothy Parker