Kids, chores, weekends, and Daddy
My husband sees no reason to make the kids do their chores on the weekend. If I try to make them, he puts cartoons on and asks if it's really that important. So I've given up.
Today he's mad at me because I can't make breakfast because every single dish/pot/utensil we own is dirty. (3 meals a day times six people times two days.) This, of course, is somehow my fault. He asked me why I'm punishing the kids by not feeding them? I'm not choosing not to feed them, there's just no way to--natural consequences! We don't have money for junk food like granola bars, etc, so I need a clean pot to cook cereal in, plus enough bowls and spoons to serve it, or a pan to scramble eggs in, and enough plates and forks to serve it, or, well, you get the idea.
The nine year old is supposed to wash the dishes and wipe the dining room table after every meal. The nine year old also wasted half the box of dishwasher detergent and there isn't any budget for more for another couple of weeks--so he has to do dishes by hand. Naturally he's delaying, but every time I said to him over the weekend "Son, you need to wash the dishes" my husband had an excuse for him to get out of it. (The child who sweeps and takes out recycling didn't do that either, the child who's responsible for the compost didn't do that, and you can't see the floor of their room for the dirty clothes they haven't brought down, but those don't interfere with me making breakfast.) Baby is due in six days, even if I wanted to do the kids' chores, I couldn't. I can barely keep on top of the laundry and the food.
Well, the kid's almost done with enough dishes to make breakfast, but how do I get husband to see that chores really do have to be done on the weekends? We're talking at most a couple hours (not including procrastination) out of two full days of cartoon viewing: it's not going to do the kids any harm at all. At this point, the only weekends I look forward to are those he works overtime on, and there really aren't nearly enough of them. My husband did cook dinner this weekend, I do appreciate that and told him how good it was, etc, but he really doesn't help with housework, and as for the list of stuff I need him to do that he asked me to put on the fridge--well, it's been two months and nothing's been done (out of five things, total, which are either two person jobs, things that require his strength, or I that can't do because of pregnancy).
Note, the kids don't get to watch tv during the week/on weekends when Daddy's not home because a) I am mean or b) I think they see more than enough with him, I don't watch tv myself and have no idea what is appropriate and what is not, and their behavior gets really nasty when they watch tv, take your pick.