I'll address your SD since you mentioned she has mild CP. what a disservice her mother and grandmother are doing to her by babying her when she needs independence in her own ways while she's growing, and not of the mouthy sort.
Can she walk without assistance? Does she have normal brain function? Describe her a bit more. Maybe you can ignore the mouthing off for now and learn what you can regarding CP to see for her level of disability, what can be expected. Does she get therapy? Maybe you can help your husband in subtle ways. I guarantee you, she wanted to ride the bike but was afraid. They have bike camps and even sell bikes for balancing, all sorts of bikes. Pity neither of them had been on bikes before! Or maybe they were on three wheelers?
I'm in a blended family too, and my hubby married me with two teens at home, only one left. He has none. The rules here are big deals, he comes to me. Driving long distances or unfamiliar places (I can no longer drive), or events that cost money, I ask his opinion in front of her. In summer we always have road repairs and construction so I don't trust GPS.
Any, back you you. I wish you well and think you've received some great advice.
I can't believe I have missed all this advice. I never got notice that so many responded.
SD can walk, talk and even braids her own hair! She has a left side deficit. Her brain function isn't that of an average 11 yo, but I also feel she has SO much more potential but grandma admits she babies those kids. She "babied her kids and will baby the grandkids."
Sad constantly has her shoes on the wrong feet. I tell her all the time to "check your shoes, do they feel/look right?" The she changes them. She often has her clothes on backwards or inside out. I also tell her to look at herself and see if her clothes look/feel right.
She gets therapy in school and is often given tools to continue for extra help at home, but I know damn well it isn't carried over at home. She has instruments to help stretch and strengthen her leg, they never use it . I'm forever telling my H that it needs to be continued at home and our house and he agrees but never does anything about it.
I once talked to H's ex about it and told her I felt they weren't giving SD enough credit and I felt she had so much more potential. She told me I needed to mind my own business and be realistic about her disability.
IDK about anyone else, but if she can braid her own hair very well with her bummed hand too, she should be able to tell if her shoes are on the right feet.
I feel like I'm the one who is always noticing these things and correcting them, but when I speak up in favor of the girl, I am told to mind my own business. Posted via Mobile Device