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If you agreed for a weekend visit for the kids going to grandma but when you asked her what the plan was for returning kids on Sunday, she says it won't be until Tuesday night. How would you react? She also claims she told me... BS! What would you do? Posted via Mobile Device
Tell her to get the kids home when you want them home. They are YOUR children, not hers.
If she won't bring them, go get them and don't let them go back unless she agrees to follow your rules.
If you agreed for a weekend visit for the kids going to grandma but when you asked her what the plan was for returning kids on Sunday, she says it won't be until Tuesday night. How would you react? She also claims she told me... BS! What would you do? Posted via Mobile Device
Unless there is a written order through 'grandparent's visitation', I would not let that fly. If she's manipulative beeyotch who will make a scene and traumatize kids, I'd make it clear she better enjoy her last unsupervised visit with kids for awhile until she can learn some respect. Actually I think I would leave choice up to her - return kids Sunday (hence forth term 'weekend visit') or only visit supervised in your home for short periods in the future. Posted via Mobile Device
Unless there is a written order through 'grandparent's visitation', I would not let that fly. If she's manipulative beeyotch who will make a scene and traumatize kids, I'd make it clear she better enjoy her last unsupervised visit with kids for awhile until she can learn some respect. Actually I think I would leave choice up to her - return kids Sunday (hence forth term 'weekend visit') or only visit supervised in your home for short periods in the future. Posted via Mobile Device
This is what I have chosen to do, as they are currently 8 hours away too. I will not tell her that this is her last visit unsupervised, as my children will be in her care for the next 48 hours at least... safety first, right? When my children are back in my home, I will inform her that I hope she enjoyed her very last unsupervised visit my my children. Thank you gals and guys! Posted via Mobile Device
Update... got my kids back and I let her know that was the last time she will see them until she learns to respect my family and our rules. Well several hateful texts later about how mean I am to my kids for depriving them of their grandparent and me responding with its more damaging for them to be around people who badmouth their own parents, she tells me "I'll see you in court". I ask for what, and she is silent. Gawd I wish she just get her own freaking life and leave mine alone! Posted via Mobile Device
Update... got my kids back and I let her know that was the last time she will see them until she learns to respect my family and our rules. Well several hateful texts later about how mean I am to my kids for depriving them of their grandparent and me responding with its more damaging for them to be around people who badmouth their own parents, she tells me "I'll see you in court". I ask for what, and she is silent. Gawd I wish she just get her own freaking life and leave mine alone! Posted via Mobile Device
lol My mom is somewhat similar.
Don't worry, she has NO RIGHTS to your children. Let her take you to court. The judge will laugh it right out.
Update... got my kids back and I let her know that was the last time she will see them until she learns to respect my family and our rules. Well several hateful texts later about how mean I am to my kids for depriving them of their grandparent and me responding with its more damaging for them to be around people who badmouth their own parents, she tells me "I'll see you in court". I ask for what, and she is silent. Gawd I wish she just get her own freaking life and leave mine alone! Posted via Mobile Device
Thanks all, ANOTHER UPDATE: My mother called DCS on me and H. REALLY? Normally if this happens, I guess most would say "okay, we just let them do their thing and move on.". But, being a thinker type, I know I'm over analyzing things. My H and I have a long history with the courts and law enforcement. DV, substance abuse, drugs (his early years primarily aside from mj now, which is not a secret in my family unfortunately), and our 5 month divorce case was atrocious.... EVERYONE was involved. My H and I have been back together for nearly a year and a half. She can't stand it!!!!!! My H and I have no further involvement with courts or law enforcement since we've reconciled. Never an open case with DCS.... I called on him during our divorce because he had gotten a DUI while my children were suppose to be in his care. Anyway, I'm just ventingbut she just nailed her coffin shut to EVER seeing my kids without a court order!!!! Posted via Mobile Device
Thanks all, ANOTHER UPDATE: My mother called DCS on me and H. REALLY? Normally if this happens, I guess most would say "okay, we just let them do their thing and move on.". But, being a thinker type, I know I'm over analyzing things. My H and I have a long history with the courts and law enforcement. DV, substance abuse, drugs (his early years primarily aside from mj now, which is not a secret in my family unfortunately), and our 5 month divorce case was atrocious.... EVERYONE was involved. My H and I have been back together for nearly a year and a half. She can't stand it!!!!!! My H and I have no further involvement with courts or law enforcement since we've reconciled. Never an open case with DCS.... I called on him during our divorce because he had gotten a DUI while my children were suppose to be in his care. Anyway, I'm just ventingbut she just nailed her coffin shut to EVER seeing my kids without a court order!!!! Posted via Mobile Device
They have to investigate every call even if it's BS. Just tell them what happened and they will most likely drop it after 30 days.
I know they will. Hell, we don't even have to agree to let them in unless they can produce a warrant. But we have nothing to hide as to the welfare of our children. It's just BS.... just after my H and I reconciled, she filed a 10k small claims (10k is possible for small claims cases in TN... and NOT a small claim if you ask me!) Anyway the case was dismissed. Just frustrating as H3LL! Posted via Mobile Device
That certainly is what will happen. It's just unfortunate for her. She's one of those people that can be normal and apologetic about things one minute and then stab you in the back the second you turn around. It's amazing. My H and I have substance abuse in our history, but whatever she has going on mentally trumps all. It's sad. I struggle with how she really is doing... but there's nothing I can do anymore. I will not risk my losing my children. Posted via Mobile Device
Grandparents returning children on time 
