10-27-2011, 09:33 AM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: Your turn to do the laundry
I work weird hours, my wife works 9-5, so I am home during the days. To begin with my wife expected me to be a housewife, doing all the chores she would do - soon this led to arguments as I wasn't doing them to 'her' standards. So we agreed what I could do (home improvements, BASIC cleaning, errands), what she would do at the weekends (stuff she cared about more than me, e.g. a clean bathroom), then we got a cleaner in once a week to do other stuff - sure it costs us $ but we no longer argue about house chores!
In my experience, when I guy loses his job he feels emasculated and it's easy to get depressed - so although you're having difficulties coping I think you need to talk wth him about how you're feeling but try to be understanding that he feels a bit useless right now - he's not a breadwinner and he sucks at chores.