Re: New Parents & New Problems
Sorry, just need to vent for a minute
We had tickets to an event that we couldn't attend over the weekend, and she suggested that we offer them to a couple that we are friends with. They are primarily my friends, but my wife does enjoy their company.
On saturday, we had them over for lunch to hand off the tickets. I woke up Saturday morning, found a few interesting recipes, went grocery shopping, prepped the food, cleaned the house, cooked, (then our friends came), then did dishes/tupperwared left overs.
That evening she was upset at me because I didn't spend much of the day with our son & it 'felt like we didn't do much with our saturday'
Now, I understand that the friends were late in their arrival (not my fault).
And, she said that I wasted my time cleaning because 'they wouldn't have cared'. I thought I was making her look good. I see how tired she is from being a mom & I wanted to go the extra mile so that our guests would think my wife is supermom.
I know that she may not think a clean house is important, but I don't want anyone to think poorly of her. I do well financially (trying not to sound arrogant as I say that) & she is a SAHM. I may be wrong, but if people come over and the place is a wreck... I think it will reflect negatively on her.
I know I'm not 100% selfless for cleaning, because I would be embarrassed as well if people came over and the place was not clean. So, 50% for me & 50% to make her look good.
Beyond all that... The whole day was her idea.
ok.. rant over.. sorry