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Re: Help. Newly widowed mother is getting scammed on the internet.

May be a classic case of, "idle time is the devil's workshop." Of the four children, has she / could she take a more active role with her grandkids? Do you think she did OLD as something to simply pass time or wanting a connection with someone? Having spent decades as a counselor... could she use that experience to find something in a similar field? If her finances are in question, maybe return to counseling? Granted at her age though, she will run into age discrimination (over 40).

Would there be a possibility of her moving in with one of her children? Course I tried that with mine and it went over like a wet beer fart at a Southern Baptist revival on Saturday afternoon.


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May be a classic case of, "idle time is the devil's workshop." Of the four children, has she / could she take a more active role with her grandkids? Do you think she did OLD as something to simply pass time or wanting a connection with someone? Having spent decades as a counselor... could she use that experience to find something in a similar field? If her finances are in question, maybe return to counseling? Granted at her age though, she will run into age discrimination (over 40).

Would there be a possibility of her moving in with one of her children? Course I tried that with mine and it went over like a wet beer fart at a Southern Baptist revival on Saturday afternoon.
Lol!! Wet beer fart... Best analagy ever!!

What happened? Your mom isn't living with you anymore?

She needs to go back to work. She could open up her own practice with her old clients if she wanted. But I really think she's looking for a man to take care of her, and I hate to say it but if she up and moved away to be with one of her suiters, it might not be so bad. Let some poor chump take care of her crazy azz.

As far as grandkids go, she's only puts on a show every once in a while to act like she cares about them. She's really never shown any interest. Too self absorbed. She's not allowed to watch mine even though they are 7 and 10. I did let her watch them one time for an hour while I went to the grocery store, but I made sure they were occupied first.
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Lol!! Wet beer fart... Best analagy ever!!

What happened? Your mom isn't living with you anymore?

She needs to go back to work. She could open up her own practice with her old clients if she wanted. But I really think she's looking for a man to take care of her, and I hate to say it but if she up and moved away to be with one of her suiters, it might not be so bad. Let some poor chump take care of her crazy azz.

As far as grandkids go, she's only puts on a show every once in a while to act like she cares about them. She's really never shown any interest. Too self absorbed. She's not allowed to watch mine even though they are 7 and 10. I did let her watch them one time for an hour while I went to the grocery store, but I made sure they were occupied first.
She wants a 1960s set-up in 2016...... not impossible but I wouldn't hold my breath. She sounds capable of working and obviously has the credentials.... what is stopping her? 1960s thoughts?

I hate to hear that about how she acts about her grandkids.... truly freaking sorry. She seems to want the easiest road which, in the end, is always the hardest. God knows you can't tell a parent a Gdamn thing.... they know it all. *eyeroll*

I have yet to post on my C III but in summary.... last week mom began screaming at me, yelling how much of a sorry arse POS I was and I went to the bedroom. Locked the door.... she kicked, punched the door, broke the lock.... think ala Zillard's thread..... I did at the time.

Anyway... she told me if abortions were legal in 1971, she would have aborted me. All which needs to be said. Game... set.... match.

"Mom you know it's funny, it took you trying to move in, for you to tell me how much of a Gdamn sorry MF I was... how ironic" Yet she was Edith Bunker to the rest of the world. I may put up with more than others but when it reaches a point, F you, ice cold, burn in he!!.

She told me about 20 years ago she saw me not speaking to her. She sat in a recliner reading the Bible hoping I would talk to her. Well... you know how I am with premonitions.....

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I think she does want the 1960's set up, but without having to cook or clean. (Good luck with that!!)

I know it may be shocking that she isn't that interested in her grand kids, but it absolutely elicits no emotional response from me anymore. I'm used to it. We actually haven't spoken in about six weeks, as I type this I'm wondering why I feel the need to protect her. Trauma bonds run deep I guess.

@Chuck71 She broke your door and said that?!! Omg!! So I guess she's not living with you anymore. Do you think there might be some cognitive decline on her part? Or has she always been BSC?
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I think she does want the 1960's set up, but without having to cook or clean. (Good luck with that!!)

I know it may be shocking that she isn't that interested in her grand kids, but it absolutely elicits no emotional response from me anymore. I'm used to it. We actually haven't spoken in about six weeks, as I type this I'm wondering why I feel the need to protect her. Trauma bonds run deep I guess.

@Chuck71 She broke your door and said that?!! Omg!! So I guess she's not living with you anymore. Do you think there might be some cognitive decline on her part? Or has she always been BSC?
W/O cooking / cleaning LOL yeah..... lemme know how dat works out!

Family ties always run a skin layer deeper. That's why you still care. Nobody on this planet can pi$$ you off and receive forgiveness after so much wreckage. Course we are imprinted to love our parents. And if we have halfway decent parents.... we tend to look over a ton of BSC. Like I mentioned on the old Crossroads 2-The Way thread back in 2014.... pop and I locked horns all the time. He scaled back, then I did. Our last few years weren't that bad.... they weren't super-fab but they were much better than say 1986-90.

Mom never was anywhere near this bad. I can taste the anger that is around her. Apart from my psych background and special ed teaching.... it is VERY clear she has cognitive issues. She is maybe 35% of what she was... say 2014. But I did all I can.... just like I said three and a half years ago about WC..... I do hope she gets help for her issues but I no longer care to participate. Schitty ending.... yes indeed.... but life never promises rose gardens, just schitt drunk country singers from the 1970s.

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