Re: Advice for mom with teenage daughter
You are the parent which places certain responsibilities on you. You can choose to accept them or shirk them. Children are not capable of fully extrapolating and projecting consequences which is exactly why your job as parent exists. There are legitimate reasons why children are not allowed to vote, own firearms, drink, etc., etc.. Do you find it curious that most deem those restrictions prudent but yet feel that the child is prepared and ready to deal with the nuances and consequences of being sexually active? This is absurd.
Is it any wonder that many women are so sexually immature. Think about it. A little girl, which is what they are at 16, feels compelled to give herself to some hormone crazed boy whose only interest is satisfying this primal urge to inseminate a female. Once done he loses interest and goes to the next conquest. The girl wonders why, was it her, was she not good enough, was she just an receptacle for him? How could any parent want this for their daughter? And what view does this process form in the developing mind of the child that they will carry into adulthood or, more accurately, prevent them from fully reaching adulthood thereby being forced to go through life with this skewed perception of relationship dynamics.
As to making birth control available, what in your wildest dreams makes someone think that even though the child is clearly not ready to assume the responsibilities of sexual activity that they are always going yo be responsible enough to use prophylactics? This is delusional. They are not responsible enough to keep their room clean but they can be fully trusted to, in the heat of a hormone driven moment, stop and apply a condom? Fascinating.
If you truly want to be a parent then you must act like one. If you want to be their best friend then buy them drugs and alcohol, provide them a safe haven and allow them to "do whatever they want", perhaps even join in if you like. However, do not expect them to grow into responsible adults. In our country this has become the norm, just open your eyes and really see the results it is having on our society.
Peace and long life