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post #31 of 47 (permalink) Old 08-04-2016, 03:11 PM
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You're amusing yourself at my expense.

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Actually, I'm amusing the other posters on this thread. Who, btw, are under no obligation to help you. Unless you care to open your wallet?

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This guy takes people all the time to these meets, he's well known on the internet for these get togethers.
OLDER people, you posted this yourself. Not a 13 year old. Letting him go alone is irresponsible.

Anyway, you now have your answer from several people.
We would not permit him to go alone to this event, but if he wanted to go badly enough we would find a way to support him by driving him there ourselves. It may not be the exact answer you want, but it's the answer you need. So it goes asking for advice from a free internet site.

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AAAAANNNNNNNNDDDDDD here we have it. It's all about YOU.
I agree^.

Good luck on that ex thing...

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Have you heard teen boys and adult men talk on road trips? Your son isn't mature enough yet for that.
We talk about that sort of stuff all the time.

I've taught him several sexual terms, his latest one is "cameltoe".

He's learned more from his friends than he'll ever hear in casual conversation, not much if anything he hasn't heard.
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Actually, I'm amusing the other posters on this thread.
That's not what this forum is for.

It's for ADVICE
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We talk about that sort of stuff all the time.

I've taught him several sexual terms, his latest one is "cameltoe".

He's learned more from his friends than he'll ever hear in casual conversation, not much if anything he hasn't heard.
Oh now THERE'S the thing you should be focusing on here.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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That's not what this forum is for.

It's for ADVICE.
You have received such. The fact you don't LIKE it isn't our problem.
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You have received such. The fact you don't LIKE it isn't our problem.
I don't like you posting things that have nothing to do with my topic and amusing yourself and others at my expense.

It's also against the RULES
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11. No hijacking threads. If your post is not on-topic for a particular thread, please start another thread for it rather than taking someone else's thread off-topic. Users who repeatedly hijack threads will be warned and potentially banned.
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Hi folks, new here, been reading a lot and great advice being given so now it's my turn if you may.

My woman and I are in a disagreement about our 13 year old boy. He likes to go to these "nerf gun wars" which is like laser tag only with nerf guns that the participants build and or modify themselves and they hunt each other down and shoot to "kill" so to speak.

It's all good fun and our boy has made some friends, mostly older kids in their late teens and twenties. The one guy who organizes these meets is a nice friendly kid we've met him a few times at the meets.

This weekend is an out of state nerf war and it's 3.5 hours each way and then one or both of us has to sit there for 4-6 hours while they play shoot 'em up. So it's a lot of driving and a waste of a day. The guy who organizes the meets takes people depending on availability in his car and he's offered a ride to our boy. I say it's all good let him go, she says no way is he going with boys we don't even know.

I say she's over protective she says I'm not being cautious enough.

Thoughts?

Thank you.
Let's reexamine your ACTUAL first post, shall we?

1. Nowhere in this post is there an ACTUAL QUESTION.

2. You claim to be asking for ADVICE what what you have ACTUALLY DONE is describe a scenario, ending with the OPEN ENDED

"THOUGHTS?"

3. Several people gave you very reasonable responses, including me. You got more than your money's worth. Again, if you don't like it, that is not our problem.

Perhaps if you are dissatisfied with the answers you should improve on how you ask the question next time. You might also want to avoid the large red type, as it's quite annoying, as you can see. Seems to me you are just being deliberately difficult so for this reason, like Hope, I am bowing out of the thread.

Good day.
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Good riddance.
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Wow, you really ARE such a NICE person aren't you?

Don't worry, I'll leave you alone when my work day ends.


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Hope- your advice was helpful, thank you.
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Hope- your advice was helpful, thank you.
Was it? It didn't sound like you though it was. But I am glad.

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OK
Not 100% sure I really want to stick my foot in this pond, but I do have some experience with planing trips like this.
Fortunately for me, I volunteer with an experienced organization that has rules for this kind of trip.
First the driver should be 21 or older. There should be at least 1 other adult (18 or older). * Both adults should have some training in child abuse prevention.
The car should have extra liability insurance. It should also have a road side emergency kit. Seat belt for EVERY passenger.
All parents should have a copy of the itinerary and contact information for the adults in charge.
Parents should feel comfortable with the adults that are in charge.

Meet with the driver and see how he stacks up.
* Boy Scouts of America Youth Protection Training is free and available to anyone online. I would suggest that as a minimum.
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We talk about that sort of stuff all the time.

I've taught him several sexual terms, his latest one is "cameltoe".

He's learned more from his friends than he'll ever hear in casual conversation, not much if anything he hasn't heard.
Really? You think that teaching your son stupid rude terms makes him mature enough to handle a potentially bad situation?

Your son it too you to be able to handle the situation if it turns out that this older guy has an interest you young teen boys.

Very often, men to spend a lot of time doing things for boys this age are doing it to gain access to young boys.
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Hope-

I am TRYING to make it a GREAT day for her by convincing her to stay home.
I agreed with you that she was being over protective. But if someone dismissed my feelings this way, I would not be pleased. She has made a decision. Respect it.
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