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post #1 of 18 (permalink) Old 08-23-2016, 12:34 PM Thread Starter
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Daughter has trouble falling asleep

Does anyone have any advice on how to help a 12 year old learn how to fall asleep?

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Has she always had trouble falling asleep or is this a new thing?

Limit technology an hour before bed. Chamomile tea. Time being quiet in meditation/prayer depending on your family's religious beliefs.
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Re: Daughter has trouble falling asleep

As it happens, I have a 12-year-old daughter who has trouble falling asleep. I think it's a matter of her having trouble turning off her mind.

Low dosage melatonin seems to help quite a bit.
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Low dosage melatonin seems to help quite a bit.
Melatonin really shouldn't be used. It can hinder REM sleep. The quality of sleep just isn't there.
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Sudafed + glass of red wine

Might as well just give me the "Father Of The Year" award now lol
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the usual things that work for most people: turn off things with a screen an hour before bedtime, limit fluids after dinner, a consistent bedtime, white noise machines, a bedtime ritual, sleepytime tea etc.

magnesium supplements and/or magnesium rich foods (dark leafy greens, nuts, fish etc.)
we like this one: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Vital...A959QQ9M3X8VWZ

Relaxation yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XOTGz-1vizY
i've used this one a few times before, but there's a lot of different options out there.

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If it's something new and she has until recently slept fine, then you should search to find out if there is a trigger. Emotional trauma, stress or certain underlying medical conditions need to be ruled out.

If that all checks out, then limit screen time and make sure they are all off at least 1 hour prior to bed time. Develop a routine, TVs, computers, phones tablets and such all get turned off and put away. Turn down lights in the house. Brush teeth, get into pajamas and read a story. Done constantly this helps prepare the body and mind for sleep.

Also, be sure the bedroom is orderly and comfortable. The bed should be a place of comfort and peace, if the room is messy it adds to stress and anxiety which will interfere with sleep.
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the usual things that work for most people: turn off things with a screen an hour before bedtime, limit fluids after dinner, a consistent bedtime, white noise machines, a bedtime ritual, sleepytime tea etc.

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White noise machine is great. We use it for our daughter. My W and I used to use it, but then we would never hear the kids in the middle of the night lol. As well, definitely cut off electronics/TV at least an hour before bedtime if there are sleep issues (or I believe there are screen filters you can use to lessen the effect of the screen). Bedtime rituals (such as sacrificing chickens) didn't work and instead seemed to upset my kids
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As it happens, I have a 12-year-old daughter who has trouble falling asleep. I think it's a matter of her having trouble turning off her mind.

Low dosage melatonin seems to help quite a bit.
Melatonin is the miracle drug for sleeplessness. 2 x 3 mg pills and 45 minutes later, it's sweet dreams. I use these on planes and they have not once failed me (even in a damn middle seat!). Ask your pediatrician how much to give.

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Melatonin and children:

https://thriving.childrenshospital.o...5-things-know/

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My daughters never slept much. Like, at 12, midnight to 630 am... one pulls a couple of all nighters a week, more during finals.

How many hours of sleep per day, and is she rested in the morning?
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Does your daughter play any sports or engage in physical activities? Often when the body is not tired the mind stays in high gear.
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Re: Daughter has trouble falling asleep

Thanks everyone. I have been talking to my kids about screen time near bed, and they did not believe me. But maybe they will believe you! As for sports, she has a break from dance right now. So hopefully when that starts up again it will help. She is a total worry wart. Guess what she is worried about? Not being able to sleep and how that will affect school. Gee, do you think worrying will make it easier to sleep?
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Sudafed + glass of red wine



Might as well just give me the "Father Of The Year" award now lol


Woks for me every time
Don't know about kids though lol


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Woks for me every time
Don't know about kids though lol


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I don't think I will recommend that to her.
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