Re: Fight with ex and now we're not talking, 1 daughter
I remember your story very clearly. You have had a good working parenting relationship from the very start.
You have backed off for a bit. Now just start interacting with her slowly.
I would also suggest that you start spending less time with your daughter at your ex's home. It's extremely likely that the guy she's with now is not happy about you being there, even if it's just you and your d. So that puts pressure on your ex.
Now about what other people's arrangements are like.. with my ex I had to put something in the divorce papers that was not to come to my door even. Why? Because when he'd pick up our son he'd come into my home, go through all the rooms and making snide comments. He would often start harassing and badgering me. It's all dependent on the situation. I wish that things had not been like that because I think it was very hard on our son. But our son watching his father mistreat me was hard on our son too.[/QUOTE]
Thank you El , muchly appreciated your ideas and getting straight to thr crux of the sitch.l remember you too and always appreciated the help you offer people , l hope you've been keeping well and life's been good .:
Funny you should say about the om , l suspected too , l've noticed a lot of things in ex that just aren't her, even sudden total about flips as if someones got in her ear and this was def' one.l even actually just said that above there in the last post..
Thanks for the tips El, l'm going to try that and thanks again, hopefully we can get back on track with this. l really couldn't believe everything we'd worked for was just blown to bits like that and there's been a big difference in things with d since too, mostly not good either. and she's feeling it and talked to me a bit about it.. She was secure before bc me and mum were always still good but for the first time in all this she's been a little bit worried and that means much ,more worried inside than what she shows me.
l'm sorry for you and your son especially things aren't a bit better with ex . hope everything else is good. all the best.