Whitehawk you went off half-c0cked, without understanding how credit works, and accused your wife of messing up your chances of not getting this loan you wanted. You were in the wrong, and you need to acknowledge it and tell your ex that you are sorry for messing up the friendly co-parenting relationship you two had. I think if you show her some contriteness, and make all future interactions business-only, then you have a chance at repairing this.
She had every right in the world to threaten to call the cops on you. You are not her husband anymore. You do not get to enjoy the same level of accommodation that she used to have to show you when she was your wife. Those days are gone. You two are not friends. Maybe some day, if you get your act together and she gets herself settled, then maybe you have a shot at being friends but not now. For now it should be business. You should not be hanging out at her house. You should not be imposing yourself on her one moment more than is needed in any given situation.
And I think you are deluding yourself when you tell us you have no residual feelings for her. You may be able to fool some people with your rhetoric, but not us. You are actually quite transparent.
yeah l should've stayed calm about that cc thing but hey 3k of my money went missing at a time like that and my loan , house and alll , nother story. But you bet l nearly fell over though but yep ,even so. .
ex , no mate , no interest at all, l actually prefer my gf any day these days . strictly the parent thing. nut it is still hard though for sure.
But none of that matters , it's done. we are here now , reality .new lives. But again , somehow people keep getting the wrong idea of just how much time l was there and who with. or wth ex means , it's not about that l just want our working relationship back for d, that's it.
Again ex was never even there and if she was l'd usually go in a few minutes. it was just too weird.
as l just sauid yeah a few yrs ago l did make the mistake of being there too much with d . l dont think you have jkids man do you , yo might get my point on that if you were a dad not being able to see his daughter at home every night anymore.
but yeah , l agree about being in ex's space and no rights anymore and rara , and l should've been a more care ful that night too for sure . l've known that for a long tiome now. But agin , ex was never usually even around.
99% of contact about d was just text , sometimes we might not talk verbally 3 or 4 mths.
But as l was just saying to T , l have a whole new life now , ex's is nothing to do with mine or mine hers.
But mate , l don't claim ro be doing anything in all this , l'm fumbling through this mess just like evweryone else. and yeah you bet sometimes l still struggle like hell with it , and hurt yeah you bet , so what !!!!! no claims at all there but we were doing a great job with d though.
it was a good system with d we had beleieve me , much better than most and d was doing really well and we bothe alway s knew what was going on . d could come and go very happily , for a fkd up divorced thing , it was the best we could do for her like this.