Re: Should I tell my son I am not his biological father?
As far as answering the questions he may have, I have full, complete, and verifiable contact information on potential father #1. He is local to us now and would be very easy to get ahold of. He is also a very prominent businessman, with a wife and 3 daughters. W said she contacted him after she was pregnant and he was in denial, and engaged.
Potential father #2 is more of a mystery. All info comes from the W, and I cannot confirm any of it, except the place where she worked at the time (restaurant/bar at a hotel, I went there once while she was working). She indicates the man was a frequent customer there, but was on a temp job assignment from the east coast and left to go back soon after.
She provided a copy of a hotel receipt that she says she convinced the desk clerk to give her, but I come up empty when I search for the name, address, phone. She believes this man is the bio dad, based on a broken condom incident. But her story has many cracks in it, and being a former LE investigator, I suspect a different reality.
She has said in the past that the owner of this hotel bar/restaurant encouraged the employees (mostly female) to drink while on duty. The one time I was there she did have a couple of shots right in front of me, which was unusual. We were also partially broken up, and I had a new GF. This stress may have contributed to her heavy drinking, combined with an encouraging male owner with an open bar and her willingness, might have given him access to her reproductive parts. The hotel/bar is no longer there.
I also have to point out the holes in her story about the guy. She said he worked in heavy construction (bridges), but why would a union pay to bring in a crew from several states away when their are local crews available? She also says that he left soon after, but was supposed to return the following week to his crew. But then a coworker informed her that he was reassigned and wouldn't be returning.
So either potential father #1 is the bio Dad, or the bar owner. She really wanted it to be me (as we were still having sex infrequently) but the DNA test excluded me. She still, to this day says the test was wrong. Maybe we should do it again.
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The success of marriage comes not in finding the “right” person, but in the ability of both partners to adjust to the real person they inevitably realize they married - John Fischer
Last edited by MAJDEATH; 09-07-2016 at 09:50 AM.