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post #16 of 23 (permalink) Old 09-29-2016, 08:20 AM
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Re: Conflict between wife and mother getting out of hand

If your parents wants to have access to their grandchildren they would be smart to keep their mouth shut.

As for you, do what the Bible says, "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall be in one flesh."

Not religious? OK. Your parents will die soon enough and then you will be stuck with the mother of your children who will never forget how you failed to defend her against your racist mother.

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You need to stand up to your mother. She needs to realize that you hold the key to seeing the grandkids. If she proceeds to criticize your wife and create tension, then you will be forced to strictly limit interaction with her. As a result, she will not see the grandkids much and won't have much bond with them. You don't need this extra stress in your life.
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your wife is right.. need to tell mamma how she feels
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post #19 of 23 (permalink) Old 09-29-2016, 10:32 AM
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I don't recommend using access to the grandchildren to blackmail your mother. Act consistently with your own beliefs and values. Let others do the same. People will sort themselves out in the end.
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post #21 of 23 (permalink) Old 10-22-2016, 03:37 PM
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Re: Conflict between wife and mother getting out of hand

Basically I agree with the posters. However, they underestimate the mom's reaction, she could lean on the dad, other family members and may well be used to the regular conflict our poster finds distasteful. Our poster does not want 10 calls asking about the big fight with mo. I think the wife can be respectful without argument, and stand her position respectfully. Assuming the poster does not like conflict, make sure the discussion with mom does not spiral out of control and that means,

1. Read critical conversations a very good book.

2. Stay calm even if attacked. Think what points you want to make and do not go beyond them. If things seem to be spiraling out of control, end the conversation
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You're a grown man and your mother has no business criticizing your wife or giving unwanted advice to her. It is none of her business anything your wife does at all. Your mother's comments would have ended immediately if you had told her you have no tolerance for it from the beginning.
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