Re: Having kids
Point taken. There is, admittedly, a gap in enthusiasm between us. I'm on board, but wouldn't be crushed if it never happened. I'm in my mid-40s and figured it probably wouldn't happen, and was OK with that. But she has her heart set on it happening, even though she understands the chances are slimmer now because of our ages.
I suppose at this point she just wants to keep trying indefinitely to make the most of her fertility window. I get that. I suppose I thought, from prior conversations, that she saw this as more of a casual goal, a sort of "let's try and if it happens, great' kind of a thing. It feels like now this is the highest priority, regardless of other factors (financial, my opinion). It feels less of a couple's decision and more about her need to continue pursuing this for many more months or years.
And it feels like my only real option now is to go along and support her, or risk hurting her feelings and making her resentful toward me. As for my feelings and risk of resentment, I suppose that's just takes a backseat, too.