Re: My husband has disowned our daughter
You read stuff like this and think no rational thinking person (dad here) could ever disown their child over an incident like being abused, but sadly it happens. Recently one of my employees had a big blow up at her house when their 19 year old daughter announced she was joining the ROTC, the dad became so angry he threw the girl out of the house, took her truck away and told her if she goes thru with it he never wanted to see her again. This is a good kid just trying to find her way thru life and dad has to be an ass about it.
OP the only reasons I could see dad being upset with your daughter is either he felt she had it coming (maybe she has been promiscuous or dresses trashy in dads view?) or he felt like a failure for not being able to protect his daughter and it hurts him to even see her. Regardless at the very moment your daughter needs support dad fails to give it, in my eyes that is what makes him a failure as a father. This is a defining moment in your daughters life, it will forever change the dynamics of the father/daughter relationship.
Frankly OP I'm not sure how you can even look at your husband without spitting in his face.