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post #16 of 58 (permalink) Old 10-24-2016, 01:21 PM
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Now that I think about it, I think I only got one talk from my Dad when I was a teen/pre teen using the whole Birds/Bees explanation, but IIRC I don't remember it really telling me a whole lot.

My Sophomore year of college my Dad drove me down so I could move in to my dorm room. I was helping do some volunteer work so I moved in a few days before everyone else. My GF at the time (eventually my W) was also there. My Dad stepped out for a bit to get me some supplies, so naturally my GF and I were being a bit handsy with each other in my room (we had only seen each other a few times during summer break since we lived in different states). My Dad sorta walked in on us (he didn't see anything, but he knew something was up). After he left I remember him calling me from his cell phone, almost sounded a bit panicky, to make sure I was "OK" and if there was anything I wanted to talk about.
He was a little late on that one! I'm sure you had it all figured out by then! LOL


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He was a little late on that one! I'm sure you had it all figured out by then! LOL
My ex-husband's father had "the talk" with him on the day before our wedding. My now-ex-husband was 24 at the time.


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My ex-husband's father had "the talk" with him on the day before our wedding. My now-ex-husband was 24 at the time.

You have got to be kidding!
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My ex-husband's father had "the talk" with him on the day before our wedding. My now-ex-husband was 24 at the time.

Could have been worse I guess, ex FIL could have asked to be in the honeymoon suite that night to provide guidance and instruction
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OK, so a bunch of stuff here. An incident occurred in my school district where a boy (13-14yr old I believe) took his life.
What does the kid taking his life have to do with the sex antics at the party? If there's a connection I didn't see it in your posts.

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I felt like I needed to give my son more details as there were other issues that needed to be discussed, but left if at the boy peed on her
This is disturbing. It's an outright lie and it's just, well, gross. Either say nothing or explain semen production but don't make stuff up like that! Damn.

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I hid and ran and left it to my wife to take care of it. My 15 year old son recently asked (briefly looking up from playing "Assassin's Creed") when he will be getting his period. I looked at my wife and walked out the room.
Warning. A he gets older the questions will get tougher. If you refuse to answer, he'll seek out the answers elsewhere and they might not be helpful answers.
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What does the kid taking his life have to do with the sex antics at the party? If there's a connection I didn't see it in your posts.
I thought it was rather clear. Kid took part in the antics, posted video online, got in serious trouble ...
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Wow, at a party of 13/14 year olds, a girl passed out drunk? That almost seems like the major issue to me.
like a major issue?

I would definitely define this as a major issue - itcouldbe nothingmore

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My philosophy is pretty much the same as heartbroken50's. Answer the questions when they come up, in an age appropriate manner, and never lie. My boys are 27 and 25 now, but I do remember having a serious talk with the older one when he was in grade 6 because he asked me about orgasms (they were learning about them in school) and could women have them too? I also used to tell them, when they were little, to go into their rooms for privacy when they would play with themselves inside their pants. Not in a shaming way - I would say something like "I know that feels good, but your penis isn't something you should be showing to other people randomly, so if you'd like to keep doing that please do it in private". This was when they were 3-4-5-6 years old or so.

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I have a 10 year old and we're struggling with giving him 'the talk'. This article provides great insight on how to do this.


Talking to Kids About Sex | Parenting
http://www.parenting.com/article/tal...t-sex-21335549

According to this, we're 4 years late but better late than never.


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I have a 10 year old and we're struggling with giving him 'the talk'. This article provides great insight on how to do this.


Talking to Kids About Sex | Parenting
Talking to Kids About Sex | Parenting

According to this, we're 4 years late but better late than never.


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Hey now, we are still working on things with our 9yr old, not ready to deal with the 7yr old yet lol. Definitely not the 3yr old!!!

Solid article, thanks for linking

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I thought it was rather clear. Kid took part in the antics, posted video online, got in serious trouble ...
I didn't read where it said that either or both of the two kids- the one who took part in the antics or filmed it got in serious trouble nor did I read where it specified which one of those two kids was the one who offed himself.
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I didn't read where the either one of the two kids who either took part in the antics or filmed it got in serious trouble nor did I read where one of those two kids was the one who offed himself.
I mentioned in the first post that the video made its way to the authorities (see first post). I also mentioned in the second post:

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The kid who took his life was the one who videotaped and shared (led to a big missing persons search until he was found).
Not sure what your hangup is here, but anyway.
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I mentioned in the first post that the video made its way to the authorities (see first post).
Yes I read that part about the information being given to authorities but there was nothing about the kid getting into serious trouble.

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I also mentioned in the second post
Sorry I missed your second post. I guess I was expecting that sort of detail to be in the initial post but whatever my fault for not reading every post I'm also busy preparing for court on Wednesday so my attention is spread out.
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I'm also busy preparing for court on Wednesday
Charged with stalking or trespassing are you?

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Charged with stalking or trespassing are you?
No, it's a divorce related matter not a criminal one. My exwife is suing me because I'm 2 weeks overdue with spousal support which I have paid without fail since inception. I have and will continue to represent myself because I find lawyers to be useless at doing anything other than generating bills.
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