Re: The "Talk" and other stuff
My philosophy is pretty much the same as heartbroken50's. Answer the questions when they come up, in an age appropriate manner, and never lie. My boys are 27 and 25 now, but I do remember having a serious talk with the older one when he was in grade 6 because he asked me about orgasms (they were learning about them in school) and could women have them too? I also used to tell them, when they were little, to go into their rooms for privacy when they would play with themselves inside their pants. Not in a shaming way - I would say something like "I know that feels good, but your penis isn't something you should be showing to other people randomly, so if you'd like to keep doing that please do it in private". This was when they were 3-4-5-6 years old or so.