However, it appears this boy and another attended a party a few days prior, the girl there passed out drunk, one of the boys decided to jerk off on the girl while the other boy video taped it and in some manner made the video public (which made its way to the authorities, etc...).
Wow, I'd call all of that the dire consequences of very bad and negligent parenting which inspired a girl to get drunk and pass out and two boys to do very immoral deeds thanks to little or no adequate parental guidance. If these kids had even minimally adequate parenting, the girl would not drink at all and the boys would have never done what they did out of self respect and honor. All these kids are the sad and sorry VICTIMS of rotten parenting which has FAILED to help them DO WHAT'S RIGHT. Don't blame this ugliness on "porn"!
So curious for the folks here, at what age did you start talking to your kids about sex? I felt like I needed to give my son more details as there were other issues that needed to be discussed, but left if at the boy peed on her (I honestly don't feel unless absolutely necessary that sex needs to be discussed with a 9yr old).
I am not a parent, but, I could have used some kind of sensible "sex" ed. at about 5-6 when a neighbor girl privately began showing my brother and I her body and we didn't yet know it was "wrong" other than the girl made sure we did it where GOD could not see us! It wasn't long that we discovered that ANYTHING involving sex was a shameful, fearful and extremely uncomfortable topic with ALL adults. Shame-based adults were the absolute norm in my childhood experience. I don't know why you are not comfortable talking about sex with your 9 y.o. other than the sad possibility that you are a Shame-based adult - just like my parents were. I could have handled sex information at that age BUT my Shame-based parents could not!
You do have to wonder what was going through these boys' heads, did they have access to porn and that is where they got the idea from ....
If those kids are like us kids were back in the '40s, they had virtually no sex education and got all their sex ed. from other kids out in the streets. I guess the presence of porn might be the next best source of sex ed. for modern kids but, so long as shame-based adults FAIL to help their kids understand at least a few basic things about sex, love and respect, doing what those very neglected boys did will just be the norm including the girl who got drunk. IMO, all of this sh*t is simply the sad consequences of very bad and inadequate parenting just like it was back in the '40s. I wonder if our culture will ever grow up enough to produce wise and adequate parents who are no longer SHAME-BASED and ruin their kids as a result of this horrible SHAME.
What a great time to be raising children!
It sure beats the dismal time I grew up in where there was no Internet or porn to get at least a little bit of a sex education from since no adult had the courage or intelligence to tell us anything at all - UNTIL IT WAS TOO LATE.