Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs. - Page 4 - Talk About Marriage
The Family & Parenting Forums Family dynamics can be exactly that - dynamic! Post here about family related issues such as parenting, blended families, step-families, new relationships with children involved, family of origin issues, in-laws or sibling issues.

User Tag List

 53Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #46 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 02:07 AM
Lon
Member
 
Lon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Canada
Posts: 6,873
Re: Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimrich View Post
If kids had ADEQUATE PARENTING, none of them would turn to drugs, etc. - Rich or Poor! Parenting is the bottom line unless one needs to toss in genetic or natural stuff but even then, good parenting will make things better while bad parenting gives us what we have right now - a run away herd of messed up kids - who will turn out the NEXT HERD of messed up kids!
There is a difference between being a drug addict or drug abuser versus a young adult choosing to experiment and use recreational drugs responsibly. Same goes for alcohol, tobacco, caffeine and sugar except those just happen to be legal. Now you could say that responsible users would not break the law to use such a substance, but it is quite clear to the rest of the free world that drug laws, dealing with marijuana in particular, in places such as OK are incredibly oppressive and unfair. Either way, laying the blame on the parents, even if it were so, adds nothing constructive to the OP to actually help someone he loves and feels a duty to support do anything to secure her best chances at a meaningful life.


never knowingly appropriate
Lon is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #47 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 08:25 AM
Moderator
 
farsidejunky's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2014
Location: Tennessee
Posts: 8,021
Re: Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimrich View Post
If kids had ADEQUATE PARENTING, none of them would turn to drugs, etc. - Rich or Poor! Parenting is the bottom line unless one needs to toss in genetic or natural stuff but even then, good parenting will make things better while bad parenting gives us what we have right now - a run away herd of messed up kids - who will turn out the NEXT HERD of messed up kids!
Speaking as a poster:

This is nave at best.

Speaking as a moderator:

Your previous comment was unnecessary. The one above doubled down on that unnecessary comment . You have no idea what steps the original poster may or may not have taken.

Furthermore, this is a thread jack. If you would like to discuss this topic further, I suggest you create your own thread.

"Our ability to feel joy is directly related to how much pain we are willing to feel." - Mavash.

"The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley
farsidejunky is online now  
post #48 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 10:17 AM
Moderator
 
EleGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: New Mexico
Posts: 33,650
Re: Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimrich View Post
If kids had ADEQUATE PARENTING, none of them would turn to drugs, etc. - Rich or Poor! Parenting is the bottom line unless one needs to toss in genetic or natural stuff but even then, good parenting will make things better while bad parenting gives us what we have right now - a run away herd of messed up kids - who will turn out the NEXT HERD of messed up kids!
That's a clueless statement.

Even when a child grows up with very good parenting, that child might end up on drugs. In today's world, the influence of friends is often stronger in the teens, twenties and beyond.

Surviving An Affair -
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.



To Create A Passionate Marriage -
To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.

To view links or images in signatures your post count must be 0 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.
EleGirl is offline  
 
post #49 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 11:10 AM
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 334
Re: Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimrich View Post
If kids had ADEQUATE PARENTING, none of them would turn to drugs, etc. - Rich or Poor! Parenting is the bottom line unless one needs to toss in genetic or natural stuff but even then, good parenting will make things better while bad parenting gives us what we have right now - a run away herd of messed up kids - who will turn out the NEXT HERD of messed up kids!
Actually raising kids is where you learn the difference between theory and reality. If and when you have kids, you'll find this out yourself. Parenting does have a huge influence, but parents can't control everything and don't know everything. Unless you have raised kids into adults, you truly can't comprehend the difficulties of the task.

I'm sure all of us can point to families we know where some kids are okay and some have problems. Although the kids were raised in pretty much the same environment, how they turn out can be very different.
wilson is online now  
post #50 of 50 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 11:20 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2016
Posts: 1,456
Re: Daughter and her friends were arrested for drugs.

Quote:
Originally Posted by jimrich View Post
If kids had ADEQUATE PARENTING, none of them would turn to drugs, etc. - Rich or Poor! Parenting is the bottom line unless one needs to toss in genetic or natural stuff but even then, good parenting will make things better while bad parenting gives us what we have right now - a run away herd of messed up kids - who will turn out the NEXT HERD of messed up kids!
Some people can be so ignorant.
browser is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome