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post #16 of 19 (permalink) Old 11-25-2016, 10:45 AM
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Re: 71% of parents admit they have regrets about how they raised their children

My husband and I have no regrets how we have raised our kids.One is we taught them to be themselves in a good way and know they are different in a way.My husband and I love and accept our kids for who they are.Our oldest whom is 20,he is a part time crossdresser going by Allie.He has been this way since he was 7 years old and it started with my make up.Our 17 year old,she did come out as bisexual in March.My husband and I told her we still love her and will always support her no matter what.Our 15 year old,he loves wearing nail polish and this started 2 years ago.Finally our 13 year old,she is a prankster.Loves pulling pranks and I think she learned that from my husband lately.It does stress me out when she puts a spider on the kitchen island.I am extremely afraid of spiders which started when I was 5 years old.


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post #17 of 19 (permalink) Old 12-10-2016, 01:49 PM
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According to a loose women poll

71% say they did
29 say they didn't

What are your thoughts , do you have any regrets in that area?
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I am not a parent so much of what I say pisses most parent off but, I was a child and have some pretty strong ideas about parenting.
I am surprised that the poll did not show 99% of parents having "regrets" but I also know how strong DENIAL is in humans so I understand how few will ever admit to their regrets.
I had and sometimes still have BLISTERING regrets about the way our shame-based parents raised us kids and that may be why I am not interested in raising any kids myself - I don't want to damage an innocent child!
IMO, the quickest and best way to do a good or better job of raising one's kids is to first admit that you don't know it all and have made (some) mistakes - which you are trying to correct. My parents and many that I know, including my late wife, RARELY admitted to their mistakes and, when they did, they ALWAYS have some flimsy excuse for doing it but rarely admit that they harmed their own kids out of jealousy, resentment, fear, hatred, sadistic needs or just plain STUPIDITY. A shame-based parent is utterly incapable of raising a child well but such a parent MIGHT serve as a shining example of what NOT TO BE when a kid grows up so perhaps it all works out in the end, LOL.
I am nothing at all like my parents EXCEPT that I carry much of their Shame and dysfunction - even after many years of therapy. I have avoided being like the bad parts of my parents and do admire the good parts of them and employ their goodness in my life.

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Re: 71% of parents admit they have regrets about how they raised their children

I'd say the other 29% are jumping the gun. The story of our children and the way we raised them covers way more than their time with us.

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