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FYD-did you read that my son knows Karate?! (blue belt Kenpo) He has never been physically bullied. He also doesn't back down from verbal abuse and stands up for kids who do get picked on (I've actually seen this in action, he's one of the only kids who will talk and play with a mentally challenged child at the bus stop). To me that is much more valuable then changing who he is to fit into social norms of the 7th grade (I mean honestly, most 7th graders are horrible to one another and look to establish pecking order on fart jokes). He's a born leader and would rather stand up for what he believes in and likes than cow tow to peer pressure. That is a very remarkable trait. I am sorry you think he is unremarkable and I coddle him because I didn't flat out tell him about Santa until this year.
What does being an immigrant have to do with anything?
My sister never taught my nephew about Santa. Many kids at my work, whose parents are immigrants, are 11 and believe in Santa (or so they say). It's just fun. Who cares!
My kids evil stepmom told my 6 year old son (at the time)'Your mom's full of sh*t, there's no such thing as Santa'
Is that non-coddled enough for you?
I personally love the magic! Posted via Mobile Device
My kids evil stepmom told my 6 year old son (at the time)'Your mom's full of sh*t, there's no such thing as Santa'
Is that non-coddled enough for you? I personally love the magic!Posted via Mobile Device
I think that kind of magic helps kids learn to be creative - it makes the world a less scary place.
Sad thing is - all the creativity and optimism and hope - doesn't matter much what our parents do - life has its way of giving us all wake-up calls at some point.
FYD-did you read that my son knows Karate?! (blue belt Kenpo) He has never been physically bullied. He also doesn't back down from verbal abuse and stands up for kids who do get picked on (I've actually seen this in action, he's one of the only kids who will talk and play with a mentally challenged child at the bus stop). To me that is much more valuable then changing who he is to fit into social norms of the 7th grade (I mean honestly, most 7th graders are horrible to one another and look to establish pecking order on fart jokes). He's a born leader and would rather stand up for what he believes in and likes than cow tow to peer pressure. That is a very remarkable trait. I am sorry you think he is unremarkable and I coddle him because I didn't flat out tell him about Santa until this year.
This is not about peer pressure. It is about being teased for something that is not age appropriate, much like a five year old would be ostracized for sucking a pacifier at school.
I did not fit into social norms either. Girls were having sex at age fourteen, whereas I did not even kiss until I was seventeen. I worked with disabled children from ages 9-17. One even died.
Perhaps I am not overly impressed by what you have mentioned, because I was doing those same things at an earlier age. It was simply expected of me.
Like I said, most first generation Canadians did not have parents that tolerated any nonsense. If we dared to talk back to our parents, we would receive a smack in the mouth. We had way more responsibilities at home than those with Canadian parents; I was ironing clothes for a family of six when I was your son's age!
Now I admit that I have some issues that are a direct result of how I raised as if I was in the army. However, I am pleased with the strength it gave me.
There is no need to be sorry about what I think. You are the parent and you know best. If your son is turning out well, that is wonderful. I cannot tell someone how to raise their child. I only said what I felt because the issue was posted for opinions.
My kids evil stepmom told my 6 year old son (at the time)'Your mom's full of sh*t, there's no such thing as Santa'
Is that non-coddled enough for you?
I personally love the magic! Posted via Mobile Device
See, your son was only six at the time. That is the main difference. Your stepmom was wrong and out of line.
If I was thirteen and believing in Santa, my parents would tell me something to this effect: "Grow up! You are old enough to have your period and crushes on boys. Santa Claus is for little children, not big teenagers who are starting high school next year."
glad I'm not as mean as your parents were, it's made you rude and judgemental
BTW- I asked for opinions on how to burst his bubble not go into a time machine and do it 3 years ago because you think he's being a baby from my coddling
glad I'm not as mean as your parents were, it's made you rude and judgemental
BTW- I asked for opinions on how to burst his bubble not go into a time machine and do it 3 years ago because you think he's being a baby from my coddling
AR, please don't behave as though you never post rude words. Pots can't call kettles black.
I never thought you should have burst his bubble at ten. I did not say that ten is too old to believe in Santa.
Why do you care so much what I think? I am just some random internet person; my opinions have no bearing on your life. If you are certain that you are doing a good job, my words should not matter.
AR, please don't behave as though you never post rude words. Pots can't call kettles black.
I never thought you should have burst his bubble at ten. I did not say that ten is too old to believe in Santa.
Why do you care so much what I think? I am just some random internet person; my opinions have no bearing on your life. If you are certain that you are doing a good job, my words should not matter.
I think you're just grumpy because you don't get enough sunlight and its cold all the time!
As someone else above said - in my state as well - the law says a child can't be at home alone until age 12 or 13.
Guessing to you, some of us sound "coddled" - and to some of us - sounds like you had a bit of a rough time growing up.
Where I am from in Canada, we actually have four seasons. Just like they do in parts of the U.S.
Americans can be ignorant about Canada. This is why it says that I live in an igloo; why not poke fun at the stereotype?
I am grieving some losses, but that has nothing to do with the issues we are discussing.
I agree that I had it rough. Oh well, my childhood is over. At least it made me strong and independent.
There are always gifts in trauma.
I'm not sure what the laws were in my province at that time. Nobody called Children's Aid back then for things like that. It was usually a much more serious situation, like physical or sexual abuse.
Where I am from in Canada, we actually have four seasons. Just like they do in parts of the U.S.
Americans can be ignorant about Canada. This is why it says that I live in an igloo; why not poke fun at the stereotype?
I am grieving some losses, but that has nothing to do with the issues we are discussing.
I agree that I had it rough. Oh well, my childhood is over. At least it made me strong and independent.
There are always gifts in trauma.
I'm not sure what the laws were in my province at that time. Nobody called Children's Aid back then for things like that. It was usually a much more serious situation, like physical or sexual abuse.
No igloo? What about wild bears all over the place? Or is that why you have the Mounties?
And Canadian Bacon - "WE" know its really just Ham...so stop trying to up-sell it - OK?
Even here - in all honesty - if someone called Child Protective Services on a 9 year old, left home alone, I doubt anything would really be done...
When people call about a child being left alone at age 9 here, it is called neglect and the child can be taken away. It's happened many times where I work. Then CPS is up your butt forever.
Wasn't going to risk it.
For the record, I love Canada. Only been to Victoria, but my daughter is 1/2 Canadian.
When people call about a child being left alone at age 9 here, it is called neglect and the child can be taken away. It's happened many times where I work. Then CPS is up your butt forever.
Wasn't going to risk it.
For the record, I love Canada. Only been to Victoria, but my daughter is 1/2 Canadian.
I'm Canadian too and lack of sunlight is picking my butt eh! But I love Santa! Posted via Mobile Device
Re: Burst the Santa bubble? 
Who cares!
I am just some random internet person; my opinions have no bearing on your life. If you are certain that you are doing a good job, my words should not matter.
