Re: Adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse, effect on parenting
I know my experiences are so much different than Cherry's daughter and RandomDude's ex-gf's, however I have seen "the system" fail as well.
In my case, I remained in my abusive father's house until I was 14, at which point he kicked me out and I lived here and there, putting myself through highschool, until I was 16 and forced to move into a group home. Most of the girls in the group home were wards of the state whose case managers were in charge of making their legal decisions. My father, my rapist, was actually my legal guardian until my 18th birthday. Meaning he was the one who made all sorts of legal decisions which negatively effected my schooling.
For that same token, I lived with a girl at the group home whose parents were wonderful and never laid a hand on her, loved and supported her. She became a ward of the state because a fellow student at her school told a lie to their school counselor and the investigator who looked into the complaint was alittle over-zealous.
Tell me how it is that a rapist can remain the legal guardian of a his victim -BUT- a good, decent father would loose custody of his daughter over a lie that some drama queen teenage girl decided would be fun to make up?