Re: Adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse, effect on parenting
We haven't yet reached that point in our parental duties yet. At 3 years old, my son's group of friends are mostly limited to the children of our friends and associates, with the occasional friend made at toddler soccer class, lol. We are very picky about who we will and won't allow to babysit him.
I've never been very big on "stranger danger"- not to say that I encourage my son to strike up a conversation with every Tom, ****, and Harry who smile at him in the grocery store checkout lane. But I know that the real threats are the people who have easy access to him: relatives, teachers, coaches, church youth group leader, parents of friends, etc.. These are the people who I keep close tabs on.
My aunts and uncles turned a blind eye to the red flags of abuse when I was a child, they now regret it and several have even appologized to me for not realizing something was wrong much much sooner. I don't allow my friends and relatives that same benefit of the doubt, I constantly acess everyone in my son's life and if I have even the slightest off feeling, they aren't allowed near him. I'd rather offend a friend or relative, then put my son at risk.