12-14-2011, 08:28 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Wife and kids rejected
I am looking for some opinions about the situation my wife and I have find ourselves in.
In 2006 I finished with the military and returned, after many years, to my home town. I returned with my wife who I had met in the Philippines. My mom, dad, brother, sister in law, numerous aunts uncles cousins and nieces all live in or near this town. When I came home I expected them to be willing to help in any way they can in my transition to civilian life and to welcome my wife to the family.
Well, I never really did recieve much of a welcome home, and in fact my wife was never taken-in by any of my so-called family members. We were expecting a baby, when he was born no one came to the hospital to see how we were doing. We brought him home from the hospital to an empty house . Nobody came around to help. Nobody offered to help. My wife had a c-section and couldn't walk very well so I had to stay home from work and take care of her and the baby.
I later came to learn that my Mother had said horrible negative things about me to my wife, things like: has he been hitting you? If not it's only a matter of time. He is in love with a past girlfriend, he is this; he is that. All a bunch of imaginary negative bull****. (Best description.) This all was said to her while she was pregnant. An apparent attempt to get her to leave. I have never hit a woman in my life.
Good thing my wife knows me well enough to not beleive any of it. She is college educated, and speaks perfect English and she was a school teacher in the Philippines ,but we were shocked and horrified at what had taken place. If I had known I would never have gone there in the first place. I had been away from home for a very long time, but I never knew my family was racist. That is the only explaination I can think of. I am white. My family is blonde hair blue eyed or brown hair and hazel.
Afer days and weeks and months of nobody coming around to see my wife and newborn son at home while I was at work we finally drifted apart from the family and we found ourselves alone in my home town. On our own with no relatives to help in any way.
Eventually, 18 months later, we quietly moved away to another state. We now have another cute little boy and it is just the four of us. We have our little spats once in a while, but my wife and I are in love and we love our kids. We have eachother. We have little or no contact with my family. I have invited my Mom to come and visit her grandchildren, I offered to pay for a plane ticket, all she had to do was get to the airport and she could be here to see us in a few hours, expenses paid, but nope. "I am too busy", at what, being retired? It is a painful thing. But I choose my wife and sons over my so-called family. Sry for rambling on. I hope this story is clear enough for you to understand and I hope I can get some opinions.