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Re: The concept of being organized/having your ducks in a row?

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Not to long please.
You flatter me, sir! I wasn't thinking too long, just maybe a week or so.

I may have it imposed upon me. I've heard rumors that my employer is starting to block external sites for users on our network, for cyber security purposes. The IT policy is that we're allowed to use resources for limited personal stuff, as long as it doesn't interfere with work, so I check TAM there during the day when I need a break. I might not be able to for much longer, so I may just try to quit cold turkey now. The bigger problem for my office is that we have to use the internet for a lot of research and randomly looking up things and a lot of that might get blocked. I don't know the parameters of what they'll be blocking, as it's not public knowledge yet. The director of operations mentioned it in passing to my boss in a meeting yesterday as we were finishing up.


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Since I own the company and work from home, I can check TAM anytime I want. Usually, I do so on my phone and just breeze in and out, posting occasionally.

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I could do it on my phone (and sometimes I do), but it's SOOOO much easier on a computer.

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I plan the night before what I am going to do the next day. Sometimes I am overambitious and don't get my 'list' done due to unplanned for events, interruptions, sickness, etc. But planning what you are going to do, helps alot.

I read somewhere that successful people get up really early and get alot done before others are around. I do that sometimes, go to the office early and get my mails and all cleared before others appear at 9am, it's all about the planning.
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I don't get it. How do you people pull it off? I have two teen daughters (15 and 13) and I volunteer teaching archery and fishing for the local 4H. Of course, I also have a business to run and have a couple of my own hobbies to pursue when I can. I just never feel like I'm on top of things. It's more reactionary than planned. I always have the best of intentions, and my plans usually come out fine, but it's ALWAYS seat of the pants, last minute stuff.

I have a jam session Friday night. It's a once a month deal. I had huge plans to learn a new song. Now here it is two days before and I have done nothing. I also have an archery tournament Saturday morning. Have I practiced enough? Not by a long shot.

Really, how do you guys stay ahead of the curve?
I do it by not taking on anything I don't really want to do. Once in awhile a true obligation comes along...but the more I just focused on only committing myself to doing what I really want to do, I found that most obligations weren't really obligations afterall. Not doing what I don't want to do means no one will talk me into volunteering for something that I truly don't have time for but may have been guilted into doing in the past. It means not helping people out if I really don't want to or have the time (sorry, no I'm not going to spend my Saturday helping you move...but I know you have like 4 huge brothers, so....)*

It also means that I do more things I really DO want to do. That ends up being beneficial to myself, my family and my career. Because the things I really DO want to do are always things that simultaneously benefit all of us. Like I really DO want to feel proud of myself at work, but not have to work more than so many hours per week. So my desire for this drives me to work efficiently and with minimal errors (don't have to spend extra time fixing them). Work doesn't seem like a chore because of this, it feels like something I go and do very well during my day, and is over when I leave.

I really DO want to spoil my (adult) kids in certain ways, but not so much in other ways. When I spend my available resources on them in the way I really want to, it ends up being the very best thing for them in the long run, which they can see and have learned to just accept it: Mom only does what she wants to do. But what she wants to do is AWESOME.

I really DO want to have a healthy, happy fit body...but I don't so much want to go to the gym or do certain activities that don't interest me. Instead I do the things I love, which are active things that keep me healthy and fit. I refuse to ever spend any significant amount of my time in a regimented fitness program, because I simply don't want to and hate the restriction of it. By following what I really DO want to do, I've found a natural and fulfilling way to stay fit.

Those are just some examples. It goes much further into my lifestyle.


*Regarding helping friends move...I personally hate having friends help me move. I don't like them touching and seeing all my stuff, and I don't like imposing on them. I don't like asking a favor that big of a friend. Since I don't want to do it when people ask me, I assume most people don't want to do it if I were to ask them. Though many of them would do it anyway and I know this. They will even offer, even though I know they would rather not, they are just being supportive friends. I get that. But since I don't want to do it and I don't want them helping me either....what I really want is to hire people to do it. I am happy to pay people to do a job they are trained at, I trust most professional companies, and I don't mind these people I'll never see again accidentally seeing my copy of Beneath the Valley of the Ultra Vixens fall out of my dresser drawer. They don't care, they've seen everything. I have not always had the funds available to hire movers in my younger years...but these days, that is a luxury I can easily pick up the tab for. Part of my working all these years has been so that I can now do more of the things I really want to do....like hiring people to do tasks that you don't want to impose on friends.

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Re: The concept of being organized/having your ducks in a row?

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You flatter me, sir! I wasn't thinking too long, just maybe a week or so.



I may have it imposed upon me. I've heard rumors that my employer is starting to block external sites for users on our network, for cyber security purposes. The IT policy is that we're allowed to use resources for limited personal stuff, as long as it doesn't interfere with work, so I check TAM there during the day when I need a break. I might not be able to for much longer, so I may just try to quit cold turkey now. The bigger problem for my office is that we have to use the internet for a lot of research and randomly looking up things and a lot of that might get blocked. I don't know the parameters of what they'll be blocking, as it's not public knowledge yet. The director of operations mentioned it in passing to my boss in a meeting yesterday as we were finishing up.


Maybe they are blocking external sites so that the employees actually work instead of playing on social media.
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Since I own the company and work from home, I can check TAM anytime I want. Usually, I do so on my phone and just breeze in and out, posting occasionally.

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When my 3 children were at home I never had time or money for anything for myself at all. My whole focus was on my family. I was fine with that.
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Make it a rule to get up earlier and get things done.
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Maybe they are blocking external sites so that the employees actually work instead of playing on social media.
It's not that. I work at a university, and most departments/offices and faculty have social media accounts they maintain to engage with the students (and prospective students). If anything, the University wants MORE of our faculty on social media.


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It's not that. I work at a university, and most departments/offices and faculty have social media accounts they maintain to engage with the students (and prospective students). If anything, the University wants MORE of our faculty on social media.


Ah. That explains your very liberal bias Pinker.

And the University wants you to spread that message.

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Ah. That explains your very liberal bias Pinker.

And the University wants you to spread that message.

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Ha ha ha, yes, I suppose it does! Or perhaps it was my liberal bias that drew me to work for a university?

I grew up with a pretty conservative family, and I knew from a young age that I thought in ways that were very different from other family members. LOTS of stories about that. I'm their black sheep, I guess

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I've always had goals, and plans to achieve them. Some things can't be planned for well - such as falling in love and getting married - but many others can. Examples of things that can be planned to some degree are education, career, location, housing, fitness, hobbies, finances (including insurance), and saving. For each of these there are immediate actions that may be needed, short term (out to a year or two), and long term (such as saving for a child's college or your own retirement). A new relationship can cause a reboot of some of those, though! And add in the consideration of children and their current and future needs. Without goals, you can't plan, and without a plan, you can't get your life together.

I suggest you figure out your priorities, write them down, and evaluate the status and health of each item. Write down goals for each timeframe. Then, figure out simple steps you can take now or very soon to start achieving those goals. For example, as soon as I started working, I started putting money in a 401k and an IRA. It wasn't much, but it was a start. Then I had to learn a little about managing it and making investment decisions. Now, it takes very little time a few times a year to monitor and adjust. Each goal may need different treatment, and over time.

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I've always had goals, and plans to achieve them. Some things can't be planned for well - such as falling in love and getting married - but many others can. Examples of things that can be planned to some degree are education, career, location, housing, fitness, hobbies, finances (including insurance), and saving. For each of these there are immediate actions that may be needed, short term (out to a year or two), and long term (such as saving for a child's college or your own retirement). A new relationship can cause a reboot of some of those, though! And add in the consideration of children and their current and future needs. Without goals, you can't plan, and without a plan, you can't get your life together.

I suggest you figure out your priorities, write them down, and evaluate the status and health of each item. Write down goals for each timeframe. Then, figure out simple steps you can take now or very soon to start achieving those goals. For example, as soon as I started working, I started putting money in a 401k and an IRA. It wasn't much, but it was a start. Then I had to learn a little about managing it and making investment decisions. Now, it takes very little time a few times a year to monitor and adjust. Each goal may need different treatment, and over time.
Good words to live by for sure! Since I'm 47, married for 21 years, and have two teen kids, most of that major planning is done. Of course, I could have a setback in some way, but mostly now I think of long term goals like retirement and college for the kids. Those things are set up and on track.

What I'm talking about here is the day-to-day and week-to-week stuff. Between scheduling school related events, Girl Scouts, 4H, family time, and personal hobbies (when I can fit them in), it always feels like I'm just behind the curveball of life.

The thing is, I have always been very organized in my life. I have two college degrees, and over 27 years experience in my field. I have always had a drive to succeed in life. Every job has been a building block to a better job. But, now things just always seem so disorganized!

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I've always had goals, and plans to achieve them. Some things can't be planned for well - such as falling in love and getting married - but many others can. Examples of things that can be planned to some degree are education, career, location, housing, fitness, hobbies, finances (including insurance), and saving. For each of these there are immediate actions that may be needed, short term (out to a year or two), and long term (such as saving for a child's college or your own retirement). A new relationship can cause a reboot of some of those, though! And add in the consideration of children and their current and future needs. Without goals, you can't plan, and without a plan, you can't get your life together.

I suggest you figure out your priorities, write them down, and evaluate the status and health of each item. Write down goals for each timeframe. Then, figure out simple steps you can take now or very soon to start achieving those goals. For example, as soon as I started working, I started putting money in a 401k and an IRA. It wasn't much, but it was a start. Then I had to learn a little about managing it and making investment decisions. Now, it takes very little time a few times a year to monitor and adjust. Each goal may need different treatment, and over time.
I'm trying to do something like this now. Coming up with specific goals and planning to reach those goals. It's a challenge!

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