I don't get it. How do you people pull it off? I have two teen daughters (15 and 13) and I volunteer teaching archery and fishing for the local 4H. Of course, I also have a business to run and have a couple of my own hobbies to pursue when I can. I just never feel like I'm on top of things. It's more reactionary than planned. I always have the best of intentions, and my plans usually come out fine, but it's ALWAYS seat of the pants, last minute stuff.
I have a jam session Friday night. It's a once a month deal. I had huge plans to learn a new song. Now here it is two days before and I have done nothing. I also have an archery tournament Saturday morning. Have I practiced enough? Not by a long shot.
Really, how do you guys stay ahead of the curve?
I do it by not taking on anything I don't really want to do. Once in awhile a true obligation comes along...but the more I just focused on only committing myself to doing what I really want to do, I found that most obligations weren't really obligations afterall. Not doing what I don't want to do means no one will talk me into volunteering for something that I truly don't have time for but may have been guilted into doing in the past. It means not helping people out if I really don't want to or have the time (sorry, no I'm not going to spend my Saturday helping you move...but I know you have like 4 huge brothers, so....)*
It also means that I do more things I really DO want to do. That ends up being beneficial to myself, my family and my career. Because the things I really DO want to do are always things that simultaneously benefit all of us. Like I really DO want to feel proud of myself at work, but not have to work more than so many hours per week. So my desire for this drives me to work efficiently and with minimal errors (don't have to spend extra time fixing them). Work doesn't seem like a chore because of this, it feels like something I go and do very well during my day, and is over when I leave.
I really DO want to spoil my (adult) kids in certain ways, but not so much in other ways. When I spend my available resources on them in the way I really want to, it ends up being the very best thing for them in the long run, which they can see and have learned to just accept it: Mom only does what she wants to do. But what she wants to do is AWESOME.
I really DO want to have a healthy, happy fit body...but I don't so much want to go to the gym or do certain activities that don't interest me. Instead I do the things I love, which are active things that keep me healthy and fit. I refuse to ever spend any significant amount of my time in a regimented fitness program, because I simply don't want to and hate the restriction of it. By following what I really DO want to do, I've found a natural and fulfilling way to stay fit.
Those are just some examples. It goes much further into my lifestyle.
*Regarding helping friends move...I personally hate having friends help me move. I don't like them touching and seeing all my stuff, and I don't like imposing on them. I don't like asking a favor that big of a friend. Since I don't want to do it when people ask me, I assume most people don't want to do it if I were to ask them. Though many of them would do it anyway and I know this. They will even offer, even though I know they would rather not, they are just being supportive friends. I get that. But since I don't want to do it and I don't want them helping me either....what I really want is to hire people to do it. I am happy to pay people to do a job they are trained at, I trust most professional companies, and I don't mind these people I'll never see again accidentally seeing my copy of Beneath the Valley of the Ultra Vixens fall out of my dresser drawer. They don't care, they've seen everything. I have not always had the funds available to hire movers in my younger years...but these days, that is a luxury I can easily pick up the tab for. Part of my working all these years has been so that I can now do more of the things I really want to do....like hiring people to do tasks that you don't want to impose on friends.