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Good words to live by for sure! Since I'm 47, married for 21 years, and have two teen kids, most of that major planning is done. Of course, I could have a setback in some way, but mostly now I think of long term goals like retirement and college for the kids. Those things are set up and on track.

What I'm talking about here is the day-to-day and week-to-week stuff. Between scheduling school related events, Girl Scouts, 4H, family time, and personal hobbies (when I can fit them in), it always feels like I'm just behind the curveball of life.

The thing is, I have always been very organized in my life. I have two college degrees, and over 27 years experience in my field. I have always had a drive to succeed in life. Every job has been a building block to a better job. But, now things just always seem so disorganized!
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What I'm talking about here is the day-to-day and week-to-week stuff. Between scheduling school related events, Girl Scouts, 4H, family time, and personal hobbies (when I can fit them in), it always feels like I'm just behind the curveball of life.
Yeah, that stuff can overwhelm. Other than scheduling it out to see when things get clumped, or identify times when you can pursue your own agenda, I think you just have to embrace the chaos for a few years and get through it. Unless you can move things around, cut some things out, or delegate them to your spouse or some other person, there isn't much you can do other than remember to breathe!

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Are you using a planner, TX?
We have a wall calendar with everything written on it. So, not a planner per se, but similar. I don't miss any activities. It's just that I never seem to put in as much effort as I hoped to. I always have grand ideas, but they always end up waiting until the last minute.

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Yeah, that stuff can overwhelm. Other than scheduling it out to see when things get clumped, or identify times when you can pursue your own agenda, I think you just have to embrace the chaos for a few years and get through it. Unless you can move things around, cut some things out, or delegate them to your spouse or some other person, there isn't much you can do other than remember to breathe!
That seems to be the plan I'm living by right now. Just realize that this is a crazy time in my family's life, try to see it through as best as I can. Unfortunately, I this hectic life also makes time fly by too quickly. It seems like life is just flying by these days.

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We have a wall calendar with everything written on it. So, not a planner per se, but similar. I don't miss any activities. It's just that I never seem to put in as much effort as I hoped to. I always have grand ideas, but they always end up waiting until the last minute.
You might want to move to a personal planner for YOU to use as the family manager, in addition to the wall calendar, to help you plan out your week and your time more efficiently. And target a few things that week that you're really going to hone in on and dedicate your effort to... and phone in the rest.

This is the one that I've started using: me & my BIG ideas

I like that they are customize-able, so you can set them up however you want, and they have several sizes. And they are less expensive than other planners, and they have fun colors and you can use stickers. I love stickers.

Their blog is GREAT for planning ideas and different ways you can use the planner. PLus you can find LOTS of videos online as well.

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I don't think it's always about being on top of things, our to do list will always be bigger than the time we have to complete it and that's normal. It's about organizing, prioritizing and being efficient.
I'm an organization freak. I think establishing a routine is important, Delegating tasks. You have 2 teenage kids so they can help you around the house with a lot of things. For me, a messy unorganized house makes me feel like my head is spinning and it causes me a lot of confusion. So I keep things super simple, a easy routine. There is nothing better than waking up to a clean house, a good cup of coffee and a minute to take a deep breath, and look at my to-do-list for the day to see what I should tackle first.

Make lists. We only have 24hrs in a day. List what your priorities are, and your must dos. There are a bunch of stupid sh*t we have to do everyday but a monkey can do them... so delegate these tasks to your kids. Cleaning, laundry, garbage emptying, dishes etc.
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Here are some tips that help me:

I have a calendar on my phone. I also have a reminders app that is basically digital lists that I can't live without. On this app I have a things to do today list, a things I want to do that doesn't have to be right away. A shopping list for groceries that I add to when I see I'm missing something.
I have a "get the house back to basic" printed off paper that includes things we have to do before we go to bed. (Bc I can't wake up to mess). It's basically put away stuff, dishes in dishwasher and run it. Wipe down countertops, sweep/vacuum main area, fold blankets.
At night I have my nighttime routine, shower, skincare, pajamas, lay out clothes for morning, sleepytime tea and I relax and look through my to do lists and calendars and add what I have to do tomorrow to my list. So I feel very organized.

When I wake up, I make myself coffee, put away the dishes, put the news on and drink my coffee and look at my to-do-list and prepare mentally for the day.
So I constantly check off my lists as I do them. It helps me stay focus and it's nice to "reward" to see my list getting smaller and smaller and it gives me motivation.

I think starting each day fresh and with a clean house makes a huge difference. You shouldn't start the day with things you should of taken care of yesterday.
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Here are some tips that help me:

I have a calendar on my phone. I also have a reminders app that is basically digital lists that I can't live without. On this app I have a things to do today list, a things I want to do that doesn't have to be right away. A shopping list for groceries that I add to when I see I'm missing something.
I have a "get the house back to basic" printed off paper that includes things we have to do before we go to bed. (Bc I can't wake up to mess). It's basically put away stuff, dishes in dishwasher and run it. Wipe down countertops, sweep/vacuum main area, fold blankets.
At night I have my nighttime routine, shower, skincare, pajamas, lay out clothes for morning, sleepytime tea and I relax and look through my to do lists and calendars and add what I have to do tomorrow to my list. So I feel very organized.

When I wake up, I make myself coffee, put away the dishes, put the news on and drink my coffee and look at my to-do-list and prepare mentally for the day.
So I constantly check off my lists as I do them. It helps me stay focus and it's nice to "reward" to see my list getting smaller and smaller and it gives me motivation.

I think starting each day fresh and with a clean house makes a huge difference. You shouldn't start the day with things you should of taken care of yesterday.
I like all that, but I've found the phone apps don't work for me. I need to write things and lists in a hard copy planner, so it's all there in front of me. But that's just me.

I especially like the "back to basic" list. I need to start doing something like that, I think. I am not a neat and tidy person, and I would like to be.

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I don't get it. How do you people pull it off? I have two teen daughters (15 and 13) and I volunteer teaching archery and fishing for the local 4H. Of course, I also have a business to run and have a couple of my own hobbies to pursue when I can. I just never feel like I'm on top of things. It's more reactionary than planned. I always have the best of intentions, and my plans usually come out fine, but it's ALWAYS seat of the pants, last minute stuff.

I have a jam session Friday night. It's a once a month deal. I had huge plans to learn a new song. Now here it is two days before and I have done nothing. I also have an archery tournament Saturday morning. Have I practiced enough? Not by a long shot.

Really, how do you guys stay ahead of the curve?

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How do I stay ahead? For one, I don't have more on my plate that I need to. I don't have to be "busy" all the time. I find that attitude pretty much takes care of it.

Concerning the jam, I too do some performing with a band as a vocalist. It seems like we never practice as much as I assumed bands should practice, but it all seems to come together once we are on stage; it just seems like once we're up there and it's real, the energy is different and it works.
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Re: The concept of being organized/having your ducks in a row?

TX-CS I don't know you so don't take this as personal criticism but just food for thought. Efficiency/time management is a trait that some people never learn, but I think they should teach it in school! I watch people around me struggle to get thru the day, I listen to complaints about all they have to do and how they are always falling behind. I listen to them detailing there day and think, "OK, that would take me two hours out of my day, that gives me time to....." My mind breaks everything down into minutes, by having that mental agenda tacked up in my brain I know what needs to be done and by when.

Honestly it's hard to explain but as someone noted above...."stop spending so much time on TAM". Yes that few minutes here and there adds up to thirty minutes a day, three and a half hours a week. What can you accomplish in three and a half hours? A lot! To be efficient with time management you need to always be tracking minutes used and minutes needed. And sure, events change thru the week, but when you're ahead on time those little hiccups are easy to deal with.

Also it helps if you're OCD.

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