It is my fault indeed, i'm taking full responsibility of that and i guess i should just keep the baby.. Thanks a lot everyone that was helpful
I'm sorry if my post came across so harshly. What I meant was that you are EQUALLY responsible for ensuring that birth control is in place, not just you, not just him. He said he would use condoms. If he didn't buy them, you could have, to ensure they were available. Shoot, had you bought them, he would have known you were 100% serious about NOT wanting a baby at this time, and if he wasn't 100% on board with using them, go back on birth control. It would tell him that if he was unwilling to take care of birth control, you would do it.
But, hindsight is 20/20, of course. I do have strong feelings about abortion, but I cannot tell you what to do. No matter how I feel about it, it is not my decision to make. I do think you need to have a long talk with your husband about the baby, the children you already have, and changes that MUST be made now that you are expecting again... if you choose to have the baby. And, one of the changes... in your shoes, I would request that he get a vasectomy while you are pregnant. And, to be sure he actually has it done, I would inspect lol. Make sure he actually DID get it done, request to see the paperwork from the procedure, and all followup appointment receipts.
I do wish you luck in this situation. I know how hard it is with an unexpected pregnancy... my third was unexpected, too. My middle child had just turned 1 year old when we learned I was pregnant again. I was still nursing her, and continued for another 5 months until she weaned herself. My youngest two are 20 months apart... and I got a tubal ligation when I had the youngest (scheduled c-section, since the other two had been c-section, as well).
If he is unwilling to get a vasectomy, then I suggest that you take your reproductive health into your own hands, whether pill, shots, iud, or tubal ligation. That way, he knows you absolutely do NOT want more children, and you are not letting him dictate your reproductive choices.
I do wish you the best. Whether I agree with your choices or not is irrelevant. Right now, you need to figure out what is best for your family... and put your foot down regarding your husband's current lack of involvement with raising the kids.
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