Better actually thanks.
Yes, and all i got was "I understand and I'm sorry that i can't be around that much but you have to keep the baby i wont allow you to just go and kill him or her"
Its just not working
Snowflakes, please don't take this as an attack, as it most definitely is NOT meant that way. You are a pretty timid woman, aren't you? I ask this because you seem to feel defeated at every turn, and even your response about how talking with your husband went... Did you respond to his "I'm sorry that I can't be around that much"? I know I voiced my opinion on abortion, and I recognize that my opinion on the subject does not help your specific situation. But, when your husband came up with that half-assed apology, that was the PERFECT opportunity to tell him, point blank, that if he truly feels that way, then he needs to MAKE time for the family. There is a song I absolutely love, by Sanctus Real. I don't know what your religious beliefs are, but I do want to put a disclaimer. The song is a Christian song, entitled "Lead Me". I think there can be a lot applied with that song, in the sense of an essentially absent father. Sure, he is there sometimes, but you often feel like you are doing this alone, right? I mean, it's nice that you have the nanny, but you pretty much feel like you are a single mom, most of the time? Tell him that. And when he comes back with that same apology, tell him that words aren't the answer. You need your HUSBAND, not just some words to try to placate you. And TELL him that while the nanny is nice, your kids need their FATHER to be present. Tbh, Snowflakes, I am angry FOR you in this predicament.
I do agree that with your baby, you need to adjust your thinking, if you do decide to keep him or her. By that, I mean no more "I guess I have no choice". Yea, I do understand the surprise aspect. My daughter was a year old and still nursing when... SURPRISE! Little brother was coming 9 months later lol. So, I get it. But, if my husband wasn't around/available... if he was MIA as much as you have stated your husband is? Well, you have seen how hot-headed I can be. I absolutely would have told him that he WOULD be taking a more active role with the kids, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Yea, that's the woman he married, so he knew what he was getting into. But, seriously, if you haven't had THAT talk with him, you need to.
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