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post #16 of 23 (permalink) Old 03-23-2017, 11:58 AM Thread Starter
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Yes! The women in my family are also fairly high strung, and go-getters. This has affected all of us, some more than others. I'm always tense and sore from clenching my muscles; my sister recently cracked a tooth from clenching her jaws, and my Mom was hit the worst. She suffered from heart issues which have completed resolved themselves, but it was touch and go for awhile there.

Things to do with your daughter: help her find an outlet to release some energy. Maybe a sport to exert physical energy, or maybe even something quieter for her to focus energy in a different way. What sort of things does she enjoy doing?
She really enjoys martial arts (has a devastating round-house kick), and enjoys practicing but like other things, I've seen her lock up with stress during tests and even in the middle of sparring practice because she was afraid of hurting the other kid.


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Perhaps yoga may do her some good.

I took a semester away from undergrad to do an internship at a yoga ashram when I realized I could no longer cope adequately with the stress of trying to pay my way through college, maintain my work ethic, deal with family issues and the death of my gran. I was barely sleeping because I was constantly worried and thinking so much.

I can't say enough good things about my experience with yoga. It taught me better coping mechanisms and most importantly, awareness. Awareness of my mind and the way I think and how it influences the way I feel.
I like this idea. I've actually been toying with taking up yoga myself. I used to do a lot of Tai Chi back in the day, and found that moving meditation was a real help. Maybe I can start us up with some youtube lessons for right now.

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any history of diabetes in the family ?
A bit on my side. Quite a bit on her mom's side. Is there a link?

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I like this idea. I've actually been toying with taking up yoga myself. I used to do a lot of Tai Chi back in the day, and found that moving meditation was a real help. Maybe I can start us up with some youtube lessons for right now.
Yes, any start is better than doing nothing. I think it's difficult to start without a class because in the beginning you may feel silly doing the postures and its difficult to figure out if you're doing things the right way without the guidance of a teacher present. I find that the ambiance created by a group of like-minded individuals adds to the calm that a beginner really needs. I'm a teacher so it may be my own bias talking there. Seriously though, have you ever OM'ed in a group? It does something to you subconsciously once everyone reaches the same frequency.

If you do choose to go to a class, I'd advise to stay away from Bikram yoga, particularly in the early stages. Bikram is still trending now in the west but I do not find that it brings the same benefits of meditation as the more traditional styles of yoga. It has more of a competitive edge and the focus is on pushing the body to do more, hence the use of heat.
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My 15 yo was like that. We found out at 13 that she was cutting and had suicidal thoughts. Some professional help was needed. We found out she had anxiety issues paired with depression, ADHD, and OCD. She is doing much better now.

Kids have a rough time around that age. It especially seems to be hard on girls.

I would maybe recommend seeing a counselor on your own to discuss this and see if he/she thinks there may be an issue. Then, if needed, have your child come in with you at first, before having her go alone. She may even have access to a counselor at school.

We knew our child was having typical teen issues, but we had no idea she was cutting and potentially suicidal. It was a shock to me and I handled it poorly at first. Don't be me.

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I was exactly like your daughter at that age. I got around 2-3 hours sleep most nights because I lay awake worrying about everything possible, from my school work to the Greek economy!! I kid you not.

Without realising it everything tamed down after my 13th birthday and hasn't returned. I don't know whether it was anxiety, some other sort of mental illness, or just some sort of hormonal imbalance associated with puberty. A couple of years ago I asked my mother about it and why she didn't take me to the doctors, and she said she thought it was just to do with puberty as she had been the same.

I'm not saying that is what it is with your daughter, but it could be. Nevertheless, I don't think it would be a bad idea to get some professional advice.
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The above is a good point. During this time period, kids are also becoming more aware of the world beyond the scope of their own life, and their brains are developing rapidly. She may be on information and processing overload, and she may grow out of it.

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I have about 4 grand daughters right in that age bracket. They are all slightly different and partly the same when it comes to behavior. I recall my eldest son and the contractor doing my kitchen commiserating together about their daughters. You are not alone. It gets worse until it gets better. My eldest GD in through itI think. She is different than she was before but it is all about growing up.

Make sure her hormone levels fall into the normal range. I know that can be problem, both too high and too low. It is a real hard time in life especially for girls. Lot's of pressure on them. Patience, patience and more patience.
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