I'm not sure there is such a line? I was celebrating my 17th birthday when I had sex the first time, but I had done other things that excluded actual PIV intercourse from 15 on. My wife says she was "probably 15 or 16" but does not elaborate.
I am just trying to gauge if there is an age by which most people would just say, "Well, of course he/she is likely having sex, she/he is____ years old now!"
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"Of course he/she is having sex with the BF/GF! They've been dating for two months!" (Or insert some other length of time.
It's not the age. Age has nothing to do with it. Could be 13, 16, 18, or 25! It's the length of time the relationship has been occurring combined with the number of opportunities for alone time...and trust me they are getting twice the alone time than the parent knows about. I have kicked boys out of my house who have come over to innocently hang out, once I discovered they came to hang with one of my daughter's friends who isn't allowed to see the boy more than once every other week. Took me a few times of this happening before I caught on. I told the kids I wasn't running a no tell motel and if they wanted time with their BF that needed to happen under their own roof.
Parents have to provide solid, current, sex education to their kids because porn is so widely and easily available our kids ARE exposed on a regular basis. Do we want our kids to be educated by PornHub or by the people who are supposed to be their teachers in all things? Kids want to know. They will find out. By us or by porn. When we fail, porn is there to show the way.
I think kids are immature much longer these days. Their lives are so much busier than in my day and there is so much more visibility. I'm talking about kids involved in sports, music, arts, whatever... these endeavors seem to take more than full time.
In my day, though we played sports and I was involved in some music, I definitely kicked around much more and was far more independent.
Other kids who don't have those activities probably have time on their hands and are more inclined to drink, smoke and ****
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Kids are more exposed to drugs and sex and rock and roll today, and at earlier ages than us, than they have ever been. Keeping them busy is great, but more importantly is keeping them closely connected to their family. Because once they walk out that door to ga hang with friends, they are on their own and only the connection with the family will influence their decision making. Once they learn to drive, they are making more independent decisions than ever with more opportunities than ever.
If we don't send them out armed with our love and familial connection and education, we are failing them.