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post #16 of 24 (permalink) Old 04-13-2017, 09:51 PM
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We have had numerous talks with our son and daughter about this. DD is going to be 20 and has not done it yet. Yes, she would tell me.
I'm glad you mentioned this because a lot of people think if a parent says their kid isn't having sex at 16 then parents have their head in the sand, but I think it depends on the kid and environment.

My kids are 16 and 18, and I would bet every cent I have that neither has had sex. I just don't think their hormones are raging like some people. I can't even imagine at age 14 like some mentioned.

My son is more into computers and Spider Man than girls at this point, and my daughter is into other things as well.

My son goes to school and comes home. He isn't hanging out yet, so I'm certain he isn't having sex.

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Ey? Argh... quite frankly I try not to think about it...

Because when I do, only murderous thoughts seem to come to mind, involving lots of strangulation and hammering... How the hell is a dad even supposed to talk about this **** to his kid? I'll leave this to ex-wife I think, and just stick to strangling whoever thinks he's getting into her pants during teens. BAH!

Sometimes I wish she would just stop growing so fast
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You can't go by age and intercourse, those are meaningless arbitrary numbers.

At what age can your child have an opposite sex friend as a romantic interest?
"......" spend time outside of school with romantic interest?
"....." bring romantic interest to your home, or go to their home, or go out together?

How old for making out?
How old for light petting above the clothing?
How old for heavy petting below the clothing?
How old for genital touching below the clothing?

Have you answered these questions for yourself and communicated them to your child? If not, how then can you expect your child to draw the line if you haven't first identified where you believe the line should be?

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You can't go by age and intercourse, those are meaningless arbitrary numbers.

At what age can your child have an opposite sex friend as a romantic interest?
"......" spend time outside of school with romantic interest?
"....." bring romantic interest to your home, or go to their home, or go out together?

How old for making out?
How old for light petting above the clothing?
How old for heavy petting below the clothing?
How old for genital touching below the clothing?

Have you answered these questions for yourself and communicated them to your child? If not, how then can you expect your child to draw the line if you haven't first identified where you believe the line should be?
I'm not sure there is such a line? I was celebrating my 17th birthday when I had sex the first time, but I had done other things that excluded actual PIV intercourse from 15 on. My wife says she was "probably 15 or 16" but does not elaborate.

I am just trying to gauge if there is an age by which most people would just say, "Well, of course he/she is likely having sex, she/he is____ years old now!"

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I'm not sure there is such a line? I was celebrating my 17th birthday when I had sex the first time, but I had done other things that excluded actual PIV intercourse from 15 on. My wife says she was "probably 15 or 16" but does not elaborate.

I am just trying to gauge if there is an age by which most people would just say, "Well, of course he/she is likely having sex, she/he is____ years old now!"

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I think kids are immature much longer these days. Their lives are so much busier than in my day and there is so much more visibility. I'm talking about kids involved in sports, music, arts, whatever... these endeavors seem to take more than full time.

In my day, though we played sports and I was involved in some music, I definitely kicked around much more and was far more independent.

Other kids who don't have those activities probably have time on their hands and are more inclined to drink, smoke and ****


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I'm not sure there is such a line? I was celebrating my 17th birthday when I had sex the first time, but I had done other things that excluded actual PIV intercourse from 15 on. My wife says she was "probably 15 or 16" but does not elaborate.

I am just trying to gauge if there is an age by which most people would just say, "Well, of course he/she is likely having sex, she/he is____ years old now!"

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"Of course he/she is having sex with the BF/GF! They've been dating for two months!" (Or insert some other length of time.

It's not the age. Age has nothing to do with it. Could be 13, 16, 18, or 25! It's the length of time the relationship has been occurring combined with the number of opportunities for alone time...and trust me they are getting twice the alone time than the parent knows about. I have kicked boys out of my house who have come over to innocently hang out, once I discovered they came to hang with one of my daughter's friends who isn't allowed to see the boy more than once every other week. Took me a few times of this happening before I caught on. I told the kids I wasn't running a no tell motel and if they wanted time with their BF that needed to happen under their own roof.

Parents have to provide solid, current, sex education to their kids because porn is so widely and easily available our kids ARE exposed on a regular basis. Do we want our kids to be educated by PornHub or by the people who are supposed to be their teachers in all things? Kids want to know. They will find out. By us or by porn. When we fail, porn is there to show the way.






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I think kids are immature much longer these days. Their lives are so much busier than in my day and there is so much more visibility. I'm talking about kids involved in sports, music, arts, whatever... these endeavors seem to take more than full time.

In my day, though we played sports and I was involved in some music, I definitely kicked around much more and was far more independent.

Other kids who don't have those activities probably have time on their hands and are more inclined to drink, smoke and ****


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Kids are more exposed to drugs and sex and rock and roll today, and at earlier ages than us, than they have ever been. Keeping them busy is great, but more importantly is keeping them closely connected to their family. Because once they walk out that door to ga hang with friends, they are on their own and only the connection with the family will influence their decision making. Once they learn to drive, they are making more independent decisions than ever with more opportunities than ever.

If we don't send them out armed with our love and familial connection and education, we are failing them.

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I'm glad you mentioned this because a lot of people think if a parent says their kid isn't having sex at 16 then parents have their head in the sand, but I think it depends on the kid and environment.

My kids are 16 and 18, and I would bet every cent I have that neither has had sex. I just don't think their hormones are raging like some people. I can't even imagine at age 14 like some mentioned.

My son is more into computers and Spider Man than girls at this point, and my daughter is into other things as well.

My son goes to school and comes home. He isn't hanging out yet, so I'm certain he isn't having sex.
My daughter shares a little too much with me. sometimes, I don't want to know. But in order to keep the door open, I have to listen to everything. My H will just pick up and leave because dad does not need to hear certain things.

The boy does not say anything at all. You take what is given and be thankful.
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I think kids are immature much longer these days. Their lives are so much busier than in my day and there is so much more visibility. I'm talking about kids involved in sports, music, arts, whatever... these endeavors seem to take more than full time.

In my day, though we played sports and I was involved in some music, I definitely kicked around much more and was far more independent.

Other kids who don't have those activities probably have time on their hands and are more inclined to drink, smoke and ****


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I've seen this too among my teen and friends who are even a few years older. Most of these boys are so busy with sports that there isn't much time to hang out in-between practices, games, and tournaments. They don't even have much time for sleepovers.
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