Re: Teenagers and sex?
When I first became sexually active I was 17, my girlfriend was 16. It still took a couple months to round all the bases (Handjobs, oral, etc). Her parents were very religious, and it had to be a huge secret. She was not allowed to even ask about birth control, because it was a sin (not catholic). My parents weren't religious, but just never really talked to me about sex at all. Everything I knew, I learned from friends and porn.
When I look back, I realize how stupid we were. No protection at all, I just pulled out every time. I remember thinking that you had to be 18 to buy condoms, and she thought a parent had to go with her to get her on birth control. We didn't really do much research. Every month I would pray that she would get her period, and whenever she did I was always so damned happy, and would convince myself that the unprotected sex needed to stop. That went on for about 14 months or so.
She was my first everything, sexually. I was definitely not her first anything. After a year of dating her, I found out that she had hooked up with a guy that I absolutely hated. This all happened before she and I even met, so it's not like she cheated on me. But just knowing that she had sex with that guy, that he was walking around everyday thinking about having sex with her, it just was too much for me. I ended up breaking up with her for that very reason. I gave her some other song and dance about how I was about to graduate, and it was pointless to keep dating, but really it's because I was so jealous of her sexual past. I really wish I'd not broken up with her over something so stupid. What did I care? While she obviously wasn't who I was supposed to end up with, we had a good thing going. I hope to teach these lessons to my son, and hope that he does the opposite of pretty much everything I did in that relationship.