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post #16 of 23 (permalink) Old 04-14-2017, 12:59 PM Thread Starter
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I'm glad that you called them on this, and as expected, they backed down from their stupid and undeserved remarks. Maybe they will learn to give constructive criticism or just shut up.
Lets hope so! My husband is very protective of me and if he overhears anything I think he'd blow a gasket, so she'll be on her best behavior from now on I suspect.


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I'm glad that you called them on this, and as expected, they backed down from their stupid and undeserved remarks. Maybe they will learn to give constructive criticism or just shut up.
I don't think they did this in front of her. She just happened to overhear them when they did not know she was there.

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I don't think they did this in front of her. She just happened to overhear them when they did not know she was there.
Yes that's correct, but their house is not large and she knew fine well that speaking as loudly as she was I would hear it. She has a loud mouth and a sharp tongue.

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Yes that's correct, but their house is not large and she knew fine well that speaking as loudly as she was I would hear it. She has a loud mouth and a sharp tongue.
That had to have hurt, to hear what her true feelings are.

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Sorry to hear that you overheard these hurtful things; his family should have been more considerate than to say things like that, especially when you were there.

The mere notion of young age somehow disqualifying you from being a good mother is fairly closed-minded view. Whatever one's age, having kids will still be a learning experience.

There will be challenges associated with being a young mother that might not be there for an older woman.

In particular, a woman getting educated beyond high school or establishing her career becomes more difficult while raising a family. A women in her mid-twenties may have done these things already, but it doesn't necessarily make her a better mother than someone who chose differently and had kids earlier.
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That had to have hurt, to hear what her true feelings are.
It did, but the people who matter (my husband and his mother) do not share those feelings so I can live with one woman's biased point of view.

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No way does a couple of old hens mean either of you will be a terrible parent. The only person that can make you a terrible parent is you! Child rearing is confusing and sometimes you might feel like a monster. Does that make you one, no. Use this to your advantage! Go up to those old hens and tell them that you love your husband and your unborn child and that you will give them both your all! Tell them that they can either stand in your way and gossip or they can lift you up and give you the best advice they got! Call them out on it and show them that they do not shatter your strength. Either way prove them wrong!!!!! Good luck sorry that you have to endure such ugliness!

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Oh my. How did humankind survive all these years. My grandmother was 15 when my day was born yet here I am, alive and well. So is the next generation and the one after them. You'll figure it out.
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