02-01-2012, 12:47 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Re: Decision to have children- HELP !!!
I wouldnt know you 2 from a hole in the wall, but you sound a little bit like us. Honestly - I wasnt really on board at first even though we made the decision to do it. Once she got pregnant though - I DID get excited and was suddenly an enthusiastic participant in everything.
I think a turning point for me..when I look back on it... was when I was working on re-doing one of our 'spare' bedrooms for a nursery. Emptying it completely.. scraping and cleaning windows, painting.. painting things on the walls, making it all pristine and full of happiness, warmth and light. Then we both spent weeks (months) getting furniture and mobiles and curtains and bedding and clothing and little lamps, and a rocking chair, and good music system and little diaper bags and picture frames and all the zillion little other things. Believe me - you will have plenty of time once you see 2 little stripes on your pee strip, to both get excited and involved.
You will both be fine, but cripes you both need to relax! Between his frenetic list making and research and your hypervenilating and barely contained excitement - you are both going to have a stroke.
You gotta find someone you know that has had kids, so you can let a little steam out of the kettle.