Hi All
I just joined this forum and am hoping to get lots of feedback from all the parents out there. I'll try to make this as brief as possible.
I have always said that I didn't want children. My life has been a bit unusual growing up. I was raised by a single mom and as a teenager she died. SO then I was on my own. It was my senior year in highschool and I had to declare myself an orphan with the state. Anyway, I think this had a lot to do with why i always said I didn't want children. there were other reasons too.
So, now im 35, have been with my husband for 8 years and married for 4 yrs. We both agreed before marriage that we did not want children, and that if i ever got pregnant by mistake we would of course keep it but that we didn't want them. Well over the past year I have been having serious second thoughts. And now, over the past 3 months I have really decided that I do want to make my own family and have kids.
A few of my other reasons to say No to kids was that I was terrified to have a toddler, seeing so many in stores having tantrums scared me, and then I was also terrified to have a teenager, seeing so many that are horrible to their parents, saying FU, using drugs etc, it scared me.
BUT, i have observed many families and it seems like children are a product of their environment and if you raise them to be respectful then they will be. And not all kids automatically turn out bad just because they hit 13 or so.
Soooo, now im really feeling I want children and want a family with my husband, and I have told him this - he is shocked and says needs time to think about it as its such a HUGE decision and so different than what we planned. He has asked that I stop bringing it up and give him time.....im afraid he'll say no, or say yes for me and then regret it.
So i guess im here because i have NO ONE else to talk to and its times like this that i wish i had a mom to talk to.........
I am still scared of having kids and i want to ask, how hard is it?
is raising an infant really aweful? what about teens, what about toddlers, how do you teach them to be good, respectable people, have you ever regretted having children?
OMG so many questions. I hope you guys dont think im crazy. I just am still scared at this new decision and hubby doesn't want me to talk about it with ANYONE we know (until he decides either way if he wants them or not).
So how has your parenting experience been like? i know a loaded question!! do the positives outweigh the negatives?????
Any feedback would be really great please!!
I just joined this forum and am hoping to get lots of feedback from all the parents out there. I'll try to make this as brief as possible.
I have always said that I didn't want children. My life has been a bit unusual growing up. I was raised by a single mom and as a teenager she died. SO then I was on my own. It was my senior year in highschool and I had to declare myself an orphan with the state. Anyway, I think this had a lot to do with why i always said I didn't want children. there were other reasons too.
So, now im 35, have been with my husband for 8 years and married for 4 yrs. We both agreed before marriage that we did not want children, and that if i ever got pregnant by mistake we would of course keep it but that we didn't want them. Well over the past year I have been having serious second thoughts. And now, over the past 3 months I have really decided that I do want to make my own family and have kids.
A few of my other reasons to say No to kids was that I was terrified to have a toddler, seeing so many in stores having tantrums scared me, and then I was also terrified to have a teenager, seeing so many that are horrible to their parents, saying FU, using drugs etc, it scared me.
BUT, i have observed many families and it seems like children are a product of their environment and if you raise them to be respectful then they will be. And not all kids automatically turn out bad just because they hit 13 or so.
Soooo, now im really feeling I want children and want a family with my husband, and I have told him this - he is shocked and says needs time to think about it as its such a HUGE decision and so different than what we planned. He has asked that I stop bringing it up and give him time.....im afraid he'll say no, or say yes for me and then regret it.
So i guess im here because i have NO ONE else to talk to and its times like this that i wish i had a mom to talk to.........
I am still scared of having kids and i want to ask, how hard is it?
is raising an infant really aweful? what about teens, what about toddlers, how do you teach them to be good, respectable people, have you ever regretted having children?
OMG so many questions. I hope you guys dont think im crazy. I just am still scared at this new decision and hubby doesn't want me to talk about it with ANYONE we know (until he decides either way if he wants them or not).
So how has your parenting experience been like? i know a loaded question!! do the positives outweigh the negatives?????
Any feedback would be really great please!!