01-31-2012, 07:42 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Re: Visitation - what is required of me?
Originally Posted by colour-me-confused
My stbx and I were separated for nearly a year and half. We had a separation agreement in place but he rarely took our son and never provided anything for him. I had to give him my car seat, diapers, wipes, clothes. EVERYTHING. He never even paid my child support.
We reconciled for a few months recently and are separated yet again. The divorce papers are signed and the same custody agreement was agreed too ... but, yet again, he expects me to provide and send everything (still not paying child support I might add).
I do not think I should have to do this and want to put it to an immediate stop. Is that unresonable? To expect my sons father to grow up and provide those day to day things himself for our son? He has him 2 evenings a week and every second weekend so its not like the visits are few and far between. Am I required to do this? Because I sure missed that part of the custody agreement I am.
Any advice would help!
In custody agreements the more detail the better but no, you are not required to give him anything but looks that you are a loving person that wants to make sure your son has what he needs. Your stbx needs to step up and provide for his child.
If the father is not paying child support you need to file and get the support. Its not optional but the childs right for this.
I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer.