Re: Surrounded by Frickin' Idiots
very astute specwar! Everyone has a right to be who they are. In my family we had to be who dad wanted us to be,down to what we found funny or scary. Total mind control. All the screaming, arguments, pleading, and calm conversations have gotten me nowhere with my family (it's the Kool-aide, I tell ya) so I am just trying to move on.
My therapist put it like this: For all of my life, my family danced in a specific formation. Everyone had their own dance steps that were given to them by my father. As my therapy progressed and I started to dance differently, they all went on the attack trying to get me to go back to dancing the way I was trained to dance. Yet still, I continue to change my dance steps and it drives them all nuts. I will never stop dancing to my own tune. I am not doing this to hurt them, I am doing this to save ME.