Why do mothers fail to protect their children from abusive fathers?
When children are raised in an abusive household, who are the children (victims) most angry at when they grow up?
The father who dealt out all the abuse (physcial/verbal) or the mother (co-dependant, scared, weak, and never stepped in to stop the abuse?)
In my case, it is my mother. PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN AT ALL COSTS. To me, that is what a mother does. To stand there and WATCH as your babies are being beratted, beaten and yelled at and not do anything seems like a pretty poor mother.
One of my favorite movies NATURAL BORN KILLERS is how I feel. The father was sexually molesting the daughter (note: I was never sexually abused) and the mother let it happen because she feared her husband's wrath. The scene where Micky and Mallory kill her parents is like watching porn for me. First they take the father and put his face into the fish tank while beating him about the head with a tire iron. All the while the abused daughter was saying things to the father that he said to her when he was abusing her.
After the father is dead, they climb the stairs to find the mother sleeping. They tie her to the bed with tape and wake her up. Micky pours lighter fluid over the mothers covers and steps back. The daughter, the one who endured all the abuse leans into the mothers face while she lights a ligher and says YOU NEVER DID NOTHIN and sets the ***** ablaze.