Re: What should I do when my parents ask an insulting question about my fiance's fami
I think there's a daughter dynamic... a protective thing that parents do, and it's tough for a girl to get out from under it once she's grown. After all, it's protective, and that's loving, right? But... at a certain point, the girl has to become the woman, and there's just no way to claim that space without rejecting the protection. Fundamentally, it's rocking the boat and it feel like you're rejecting them. You're not. And it IS rocking the boat. You're getting into a new boat. You still love them. But you need to leave their boat. You're getting into your own, and you need to tell them that...and you do that by telling them when certain things they say aren't acceptable.
Probably the first time you say something - even tiny - that disputes what they say, everyone's eyebrows will shoot up. It's a first, so it'll be shocking. It's okay. Feel the adrenaline, the fear... when you look back on it, it's called courage. You're learning how to be mama bear.