04-02-2012, 10:09 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | What to do about my husband's ex?
I have been with my husband for 11 years, but only married for 4. He has 3(2 are already emanicpated) children with his ex wife. In the past we would always meet for dinner for the kids' birthdays and spend part of the holidays with his ex. My husband always told me that it was easier for the kids. However, we went through a court battle and have started to do things seperately. Now that this is over, my husband's ex wants to go back to the way things used to be. I have a very big problem with that. She has told me I was a good person one minute and then told me I was fake and not nice simply because she was mad that we were with the kids on one of their birthdays without her. I really don't know what to do. I love my husband and my step children, who are close with me. Easter is Sunday and she wants us all to go out again. My husband doesn't want to, but doesn't care because it's "easier on the kids." I don't want things to go back that way becuase I don't want to be around someone who has treated both me and my husband poorly. However, I am afraid that once he tells her no, she will blame me and then the kids will be upset with me. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Do I just shut my mouth and go along with things?