03-10-2009, 08:52 AM
Join Date: Dec 2008
| | Re: My parents , my wife...........and me
Well, you said it all yourself. Your folks did some mean things to your wife, and in the beginning you didn't acknowledge these things, for fear of causing a rift. And then you ended up with a wife who felt neglected and like you weren't going to honer her and back her up, and protect her from being hurt emotionally by your own family. Then when your wife finally has had enough, and lets your Mom know how she feels, which is something you had thus far refused to do, so she took matters into her own hands, your parents get mad and refuse to speak to you, and then start pranking your phone, like middle schoolers.
And you clearly have seen what this has done to your wife, and have started trying to make good on it, which is Great! You're on the right track there. Your wife doesn't sound unreasonable, your parents do however. Who does that anyway? They need to grow up, and treat your wife and you, with some respect. And if they can't, and they can't understand that your wife will Always come first, and that's how it should be, and if they do something that is out of line to upset her, that you'll come to her defense, then you don't need them in your life anyway.
Having said that, I'm not saying you should never speak to them again, but if they are going to make your life this miserable and refuse to treat your wife with respect, then what can you do?
If they have shunned your wife, then they have shunned you. Your wife comes first. That's as it should be. And if they can't accept her, or at least be civil to her, then you might have to have limited contact with them.