04-30-2012, 04:08 AM
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Canadian - eh
Originally Posted by raising5boyz
Hello all, I would like any and all opinions/thoughts/comments.
I often question my parenting. Growing up I had a very strict father/he was really not nice at all....borderline abusive. My first husband was just like my dad. I was married a second time, and the split up was not due to parenting issues. Since then, I have had a couple of boyfriends. Each one has either criticized my parenting or said I am a great mother with an untraditional parenting style. So my question is....what is normal?
Do parents usually have big disagreements on how kids should be treated?
As a parent how harsh or gentle are you with your kids?
Do you overlook certain things your kids do or get on them for any and every little mistake they make?
Do you talk to them the way you expect them to talk to you...ie mutual respect?
Do you feel like you are a good parent?
Just so curious how other families work......how other parents raise their children.
Dads....how do you play with your kids...specifically your boys? Do you always win and show them that you dominate?
Kids are 20 16 4 and 1. I try to parent the older 2 by laws of natural consequence unless the natural consequence is jail or death. My 20 year old is on her own, so my discipline is limited, though I repeat often to her, 'poor planning on your part does not mean an emergency for me'. The 16 year old is at a tough stage. Spreading his wings but needs reigning in. He is good with chores and helping with his 2 little brothers (genuinely loves them and likes playing with them). He is bad with curfew and letting me know where he is. He is disciplined with grounding and extra chores - hopefully related to the 'infraction'. The younger two are a crap shoot. They are spirited and tough to discipline because there is no 'logic' in them yet. We try distraction and time outs and the odd discussion with the 4 year old.
We try to go for walks and bike rides and play in the park with the kids. Sometimes play wii with older boy, read books.
Don't really 'play' with 16 year old, but do projects together.
Edited to add - some day I feel I have it all together and am doing a great job. Other days I could just cry. Typical mom I think! Posted via Mobile Device