Re: Why do fathers get the short end of the stick?
I'm one of those active dads who is involved in all aspects of our childrens' lives; maybe in a minority of men with children.
Nearing divorce, my wife and I both realize and appreciate the importance each other plays in parenting. We have a 50-50 co-parenting plan.
However, I thought about how women generally get the better end of child-caring in divorce cases, etc. But, it irritates me, who does equal, if not more.
My wife said that's just the way children are. They love their moms;they'd rather be with their moms.
It's heartbreaking for me to hear that. I have dealt with our childrens' emotions far more than she. I have been there and will be there.
I assume that it is easier for women to have their cake and eat it too. Meaning, transgress in the marriage, and then in divorce, dictate the terms of the children.
The whole Custody/Visitation mentality still pervades thinking; it is to the benefit of women. And, I'm one of those dads who wants to fight this stereotype in an effort to make it fairer for dads who are active in their childrens' lives.
Of course, I appreciate the role that mothers play in parenting. My wife is an excellent mother.