Originally Posted by myheartem1
So I'm a mother of 3 and was just curious if anyone else's husband backs out from responsibilities when it comes to the kids. I mean really, does ANYONE have a husband who won't and REFUSES to bathe their own children?
HE says " Oh but you give bathes so much faster than I ever could " Does anyone have a husband who makes the wife do ALL the laundry alone at the laundry mat, for everyone all at once? WHILE.... he sits their and plays video games.. even when their wife is 8 months pregnant??? DOES anyone's husband just flat out back down from responsibility in any way maybe even other than this but to me it just doesn't seem fair. I go to school full time and he's currently not even working and yet I'm still responsible for everything such as dishes, dinner, baths, laundry, diapers, really anything that has to do with cleaning our home and I just don't see how this is equal parenting.. whats your opinion?
How old are your children?
How old are the two of you?
How long have you been married?
Well yes your husband sounds a lot like the one I just divorced.
We married when our kids were 10/11. So I did not go through any pregnancies with him. We were married for 12 years. He lost his job in the second year. He seldom worked after that... was unemployed for 10 years.. still is. He plays video games all day and is into cybersex, porn, etc. And would not help with the kids, the house, yard, etc.
So whatís my opinion? You need to set hard boundaries on this. Your actions are enabling him to do this. Donít do like I did and let this go on for 10 years. End it now. Either he stops acting like a 15 year old and becomes a responsible husband and father or you need to divorce him. Thatís the hard stance you need to take to change this.
** Stop doing anything for him. Do not do his laundry, do not cook for him, etc. Take care of yourself and the kids. Heís a big boy and can take care of himself.
** Remove all video gaming equipment from your home. Give it to his parents and tell him that itís you, your children or video games. Or just throw it away. Or better yet sell it and get some badly needed cash.
** Tell him that if he does not do 50% of the chores he can leave.
** Tell him that he has to get a job.
** No more sex with him unless he grows up and takes responsibility. The last thing you need is one more baby.
Give him 24 hours to make these changes or heís gone. What he is doing it abuse. Itís just down right mean. You donít need a husband who acts like a 15 year old.