06-17-2012, 04:57 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Fued between the MIL and I.... Help
My husband and I are 23 and been married for almost a year. When we met, we started dating then got engaged only a few weeks later. He had told me his mother never liked any of his previous gf's. Well anyways we got along fine, for the first few months. I moved into his house (with his parents) immediately after we got engaged. She helped pick out my wedding dress even. (sadly my mom wasn't there and it really bothers me... Even to this day) well after a few months, my husband and I moved to our own place... And the drama and gossip begun.
My husband is her oldest child, a true mama's boy. He's so important to her, which ur own children should be, but it's almost like he's her other half, obsessive about him. After only 6 months, she came to our house one day when I was home along and B*T*H*D me out. It was an attack. Said she heard that I was hitting her son and was 100% abusive in everyday to her son and that they did not support the wedding. She's very controlling and believes every word she hears, no matter what she hears and who she hears it from. Honest QUEEN of gossip and drama. Very opinionated and believes only her feelings and words. My husband and I had been arguing more than normal but I think we were finally really getting to know each other and feeling comfortable with speaking up for our true feelings. I NEVER hit him... Never. Once I told my husband what she did, and WE told her none of it was true, she felt that it was still true and her son was only defending me... True but also NOT true because it was the truth.
Well we got married and now over a year and a half later, she still believes it and is extremely rude to me when I'm around. She's gone so far to tell me I'm NOT family. I'm in such a uncomfortable position. It has caused issues between my husband and I. Especially on holidays. His mother says "we are a very close family and spend EVERY holiday together" .... So I'm damed to spend a single day with my family and when we do, it's an issue because it's time that we should be there with HER. She's so demanding and thinks she's the most important and everything/everyone else can wait.
Even people in town, when they find out who my MIL is, they fear for me cause they know how dramatic and gossipy she is.
I LOVE my parents/family and wish I could spend more holidays and birthdays with them but they live hours away. So when we finally get to see them, my MIL is pissed cause we spent the time and money to go see them.
HELP???!!!! How do I get through to her. We NEVER talk cause I'm not welcome in the family.... All because of fake rumors. I have to admit I really feel hated by everyone and unwelcome by my husbands friends and family... My family is very welcoming to my husband. They hate to see me hurt by his family.
Like I said, it causes issues between my husband and I... And I hate tearing him apart.... Although he says "you need to get along with her" which hurts my feelings cause I've done nothing. Its like I took her oldest so I'm the devil to her I guess. How do I keep going about this the rest of our lives???
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