06-23-2012, 03:30 PM
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| | Re: in laws!!
Originally Posted by Ree
I can sympathize with you..My MIL not only likes my hubbys ex-wife better but she's gone so far as to send her money on numerous occasions,used OUR phone when she was living in OUR house to call her which made my husband go ballistic and then magically one day a card from the ex to the MIL for Mother's Day shows up in my mail box!..Hubby was furious but I quite honestly laughed at how childish and pathetic they were for doing it as if they were trying to shove their relationship in my face..Here's the way I look at it..I could care less who my MIL likes better and as far as I'm concerned she can send the ex her entire bank account if she wants to..I'm the one married to my husband,I'm the one he crawls in bed with every night and when his mother put him into a position to choose her or our marriage he chose us!!..We've been married almost 11yr.s and his ex is of no threat to me or my marriage especially considering how much he can't stand her so I don't let it concern me in the least..I found the best thing to do was to show them that I could care less..My MIL was always bringing up the ex in front of me and I paid no attention to it whatsoever and that really pissed her off!..I'm married to my husband not his mom or his ex so as long as him and I are happy that's all I care about..The only thing about the situation that used to bother me is hubby has told the MIL on numerous occasions that with all the hell and heartache his ex put him through he feels very disrespected that his mom maintains the kind of contact that she does with her and that she's always giving her money..As long as your secure in your marriage that's all you need think about and the more you let them know it bothers you the more they will do it..Just show them that you're not threatened by her or their relationship with her and you confident in your husbands love and loyalty for you.
If you did not care, you would not bother to mention your MIL's actions. Nothing wrong with the fact that her rudeness hurt you. Totally agree with showing them that you are not threatened.
MIL prefers my BIL's ex girlfriend; they lived together for six years and my MIL used to have this ex's picture on her wall. This continued despite my BIL marrying someone else. I found that very disrespectful.